To talk about toxic people is to talk about individuals who suck the energy of those around them, generating unpleasant emotions that can destabilize those close to them.
The difficulty of close relationships with toxic people is indisputable, so it is important to recognize what models exist:
1. Narcissists:
They put their needs first, interpreting the world as if they had the leading role, and other people will orbit around them. It is difficult to feel supported by them, since they will direct any conversation, either trying to demonstrate the high knowledge they have (or believe they have) about some problem, or establishing themselves as main characters in a scene that does not belong to them (“selfism”). .
2. Antisocial:
Lacking empathy, they are incapable of putting themselves in the other’s shoes, being unable to feel love towards another human being. They value others as mere tools to achieve their goals, neglecting relationships that do not serve their purposes. Within the classification of toxic personalities, this category is the most dangerous, but also the least common.
3. Envious:
Their self-esteem depends excessively on comparison with others, so any achievement achieved that could be desired by themselves (or for someone very close, such as a child), will unconsciously attack their self-esteem, which will result in feelings of envy. They are people who criticize and devalue the efforts and/or success of others, trying to boycott the emotions of joy or well-being of those close to them.
4. Choleric:
Those people who do not manage anger “throw their darts” without measuring the consequences. They generate emotional discomfort (they do not control what they “say” and/or do) and an environment of tension similar to walking in a “minefield.” The others fear that their sensitivity and reading of events will lead to a frontal and excessive attack.
They are individuals who find it difficult to take responsibility for their actions. The psychological defense mechanism they activate is the “martyr role”, making it very difficult to resolve disagreements or misunderstandings. They will make excuses and try to manipulate (consciously or unconsciously) their interlocutor, proclaiming themselves as the biggest losers.
6. Manipulators:
Bold when it comes to reading personalities, they master the information necessary to manage the thoughts and emotions of their peers. They always have an excuse that is usually plausible and convincing, confusing their loved ones.
Finally, it is necessary to clarify that these categories are not watertight compartments: the choleric can play a victimizing role; the antisocial is a manipulative person; the envious can play the role of martyr, etc.
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“Peace is the only battle worth fighting” (Albert Camus)
