Learning To Manage Empathy And Adaptation: Two Wonderful Qualities Of The Human Being
Adaptability and empathy: How to take advantage of these two qualities to become a better person?
“I adapt to situations.”
“I don’t mind giving in.”
“I adapt.”
“The others don’t give in for me, they are more rigid.”
“If I don’t adapt, others won’t.”
There are many times when people are not aware that they do to us what we consent to be done to us. It is what makes people, especially those close to us, behave in a way that we do not like.
From my point of view, ADAPTABILITY and EMPATHY are two of the best qualities for the development of happiness as I understand it, practice it and teach it: Being the person you want to be and having the life you want.
If we know how to use both qualities, they are designed to be tools that help us bring out our full potential, including difficult moments, in which they can play a decisive role. If we do not know how to treat them, they can become a death trap that leads us to live for or for others, without responding to our will.
The first thing we are going to do is see what these two qualities really are.
It is the ability to modify based on change. Why, from my point of view, is it one of the best tools and qualities that we should promote? While rigidity is immobility, adaptation is change, learning, movement. As Darwin said, the survival of the animal world lies in its ability to adapt to changes.
If life is characterized by something, it is by constant uncertainty and constant change. Human beings have wonderful qualities, but they have not taken the time to learn them. We do not control anything external to ourselves, so the ability to adapt to changes or uncertainty becomes the perfect tool for life. Eliminate resistance, denial in the face of what happens, giving you the ability and power to redirect your life, following YOUR path, taking into account the circumstances. Beautiful, right?
Let’s go with the next concept. Empathy is the ability to put yourself in the place of another. How is this ability practical for your daily life? Empathy facilitates understanding and the ability to love, compassion, creativity, so necessary to see the options we have or paths to get where you want, the solution of problems and of course the progress and the capacity for forgiveness and Therefore, it is very useful in all aspects of the sentimental level.
The two faces of the same coin
Adapting is not giving in, much less modifying what you want based on others or giving up your dreams due to external pressures. Empathy is not putting yourself before situations, problems, even moments of joy or achievements of others before your own life, what you feel, what you want, what happens to you or what you simply feel like expressing.
That’s why we get confused. Because where we talk about empathy and adaptation there is a certain absence of limits. This is not a big problem, because it can be solved. When it comes to setting limits, we are talking about one of the great and little-known facets or areas of self-esteem.
What can I do in this case? What does it mean to set limits?
Boundaries mark what you let or don’t let/allow to happen in your life, from eating mint ice cream when you don’t like it, allowing a bad gesture, to working on something you hate. So, when you set limits, what you are actually doing is raising your quality of life, discerning between what you love and what does not bring you anything positive.
But… if I haven’t worn them all my life… can I now?
Of course. It’s a matter of desire, learning and perseverance.
When you start to set limits in your life, you are surprised at how, thinking that you were going to create conflict or lose “things or people” due to change, what happens is that people begin to show you more respect, and everything begins to balance out.
Now your mind can tell you, “it’s impossible”, but it’s only because you didn’t know how to face reality
Now you know that your empathy and adaptation are good and that you can set limits when faced with what hurts you, which is not a consequence of being a person who adapts and/or is empathetic. It is a matter of self-esteem, and simply by taking a few classes you can achieve the changes you are looking for.
How can I get started?
Make a list of I WILL NOT ALLOW AGAIN This is the first step.
