Pleasured: A Good Technique To Connect With Your Partner
In a previous article, we talked about the importance of expanding our sexual repertoire, leaving aside the coitocentrism (focusing the sexual relationship almost exclusively on penetration) prevailing in our culture.
Today we propose a technique that is used in sexual therapy in order to reduce tension in the couple when problems arise. This strategy is a variant of the one developed by Masters and Johnson already in the sixties and seventies, which they called “Sensory Focusing”.
However, it is not necessary to suffer from a sexual problem in the couple’s environment to enjoy a session of mutual caresses, so Pleasure becomes a fun and pleasant exercise that helps connect with the couple.
In the same way that Masters and Johnson established several levels within this technique, We are also going to diversify it into three steps, Pleasured 1, 2 and 3. Today we present the first one
1. It is preferable to plan the day on which we will do the exercise , although it can also work in these cases to improvise. Although there is no minimum number of times to do it, the more we do it, the more we will see its benefits.
2. We will look for an ideal place that meets certain preferences such as: privacy, adequate temperature, comfort (the bed is ideal for exercising), or environmental preferences (relaxing music, dim lighting, candles, etc.). It is important to turn off your phone or put it on silent mode to avoid interruptions.
3. It is also essential to have a good attitude, be motivated not being very tired or in full digestion.
4. We start the exercise One of the members of the couple lies naked, face down and with their eyes closed. The other, also naked, in a comfortable position begins to caress his partner gently from head to toe without forgetting any body part. It is not about giving a massage but rather transmitting our emotion through our hands, so the stimulation should be relaxed and pleasant.
5. When the one you are caressing reaches the feet the person who is lying turns around and repeats the exercise from the front as before, except for the genitals and breasts, since we are in Pleasure 1. The body stimulation should last at least fifteen minutes in total (about seven minutes for each side). of the body).
6. After this, the eyes open, the one who was lying sits up and they take a few minutes to comment on how they felt, the quality of the caresses, the affection, etc. Afterwards, the roles are changed, the one who has received the caresses now performs them and vice versa and the exercise is repeated as described in the previous points.
7. At the end of the exercise, the couple decides what will happen next, whether to start a sexual relationship or not , since there is no prior premise of ending up excited or having sex when finishing. The objective of this strategy is therefore not to “force” anything more than giving and receiving pleasurable caresses. We can use this experience to learn to ask, to know how to say yes or no, according to each person’s wishes and accept refusals without getting angry or experiencing them as rejection.
In short, a different exercise that allows us to relax and connect with our partner. In future articles we will discuss the variants offered by the Placereado 2 and 3 and their practical applications.
