The human being longing to never suffer for anything has ended up causing him to suffer more and for more things Incongruence, we can say, is living in a world that we perceive as “more pleasant, safer, less painful” and finding ourselves overwhelmed by the suffering generated precisely by that world designed to seek happiness. Modern society has contrasted the concept of suffering with that of well-being, conceiving the latter as normal, positive, desired, and on the contrary, suffering is socially paired with thoughts of helplessness, incapacity, as something abnormal, negative, and inappropriate.
Why is it so important to be psychologically flexible?
Consequently, This has led to perceiving suffering as opposed to being in a position to act for what one wants we have been sold the obligation to feel good and avoid suffering, unaware that this is a fundamental part of life and is something that we cannot avoid, but if managing, living a life without pain happens to be the priority objective of many people .
Thus, if we were to inquire into what is expected from life, a common part of the responses would most likely include the desire to live well and be happy, avoiding any event or situation that entails “negative” emotions or discomfort, more specifically the desire to feel loved. , have clear ideas, be motivated or want to do things, think positively about yourself and life, so that when pain, bad moments, doubts, negative thoughts, self-doubt arise, feeling of not being loved, of not being successful, one suffers and all of this becomes a priority objective of avoidance, which depending on what the person values and conceives can become destructive and trigger a series of physical and psychological illnesses by resisting us. To the change.
It is worth emphasizing that one of the tools that human beings have to achieve a full life is Psychological Flexibility, which we could define as the ability to be in contact with private events that arise without the need to avoid or escape from them This involves living in the present, open to experiences and moving in the direction of the things that are important to us. In other words, it is being open to other types of experiences, sensations, emotions, thoughts, memories and images and having the ability to make decisions based on the things that we really care about and value.
What we achieve with psychological flexibility is to live our lives not based on trying to eliminate or avoid unpleasant sensations or events, but rather having the ability to accept that things will arise in our daily lives that seem negative and uncomfortable to us but that are part of the life and the important thing is to truly move in the direction we want to move. When we are psychologically flexible we do not judge whether thoughts are true or not, we analyze them based on whether or not they help us achieve our goals, whether they help us live a full and satisfying life, that is, whether or not they help us direct ourselves in the direction we want to move, when they do not help us what we must do is not merge with the thoughts, that is, take a certain perspective and distance to change the relationship with these thoughts, accepting their existence as something inevitable for change.
In itself, we can say that Psychological flexibility helps us to have a better reading and adherence to the situations that we experience daily, enabling personal advancement it is an important skill that helps change and benefits emotional well-being, to the extent that it seeks to help the person manage their internal events to direct their action towards what they consider valuable, that is, synchronize their feelings, their thinking and his actions.
