Learn the function and management of emotions, the key to mental and physical health by promoting Emotional Intelligence
Why are emotions a good starting point to resolve personal conflicts?
Well, to begin with, because they are easily identifiable, and they give us the clue to detect limiting beliefs that keep us repeating patterns of behavior that can make it difficult for us to properly relate to our family, work environment or even with ourselves.
All emotions have a function, and although some are classified as negative, all of them are necessary. The gonna For example, it emerges naturally when we feel that we are being victims of an attack or injustice, and it gives us courage and courage to defend ourselves and demand that we be respected. The depression It makes us stop and turn inward to give our body time to adjust to a certain situation that, in some way, has broken our patterns. Disgust is a way for our body to tell us that something is dangerous, because it smells bad, and makes us distance ourselves.
Another thing would be if that emotion we feel is shown in an exaggerated way or out of context. Who has not been overwhelmed by something insignificant? Behind this reaction there is usually a situation of stress or fatigue and this overflow can serve to relieve that emotional burden occasionally, but if containment is not found in the environment it can generate both external problems (anger) and internal problems (guilt).
It can also happen that we “swallow” our emotions, that we do not allow, for some reason, that energy to move correctly, E-MOCIÖN “energy in motion.” Blocking this energy, this emotion, could generate not only emotional or mental complications, but can also cause physical symptoms. Hence the saying: “what the mouth is silent about, the body expresses.” It is known that around 98% of illnesses have an emotional origin, either due to the intensity or the continuity over time of a conflicting circumstance for us.
FEAR, ANGER, SADNESS, SURPRISE, CONTEMPT, JOY AND DISGUSTMENT They are the seven basic emotions and they are universal, human beings have used them in all cultures to relate to their peers, making themselves understood only with facial gestures. It is something innate and the first thing a baby learns to differentiate. Both basic or primary emotions and their derivatives move chemicals through our body through our nervous and endocrine system, hence the importance of processing them properly in a natural way.
Learning to manage them and understanding the function that each of them has for us helps us to function properly. We are social beings and we need to interact with other beings of our species, but we are not taught to foster emotional intelligence, and that seems to be the most important for good integration at all levels.
Describe how each of them feels, recognize a moment in which they occurred and ask yourself why they appeared, what triggered them and objectively assess whether we used them appropriately on that occasion. It can be a good way of self-knowledge.
Personal growth involves acceptance of what makes us human beings, making appropriate use of the gifts and abilities with which we have been endowed, and verbal expression, being able to express what we feel is a gift that is not always we know how to appreciate.
