The expectation of resolving psychological difficulties is a very strong motivation for psychotherapy. However, the consistency required for change can scare the customer and network.
The expectation of resolving psychological difficulties is a very strong motivation for psychotherapy. However, the consistency necessary for change can frighten the client and reduce their commitment to the therapeutic work. The desire does not coincide with such determination, or the suffering resulting from facing change is perceived as unsustainable.
The therapeutic path is not automatic in their progression and in the achievement of objectives. It foresees progressions, regressions, doubts, revisions. This is normal, because psychological change involves not only a rational consciousness, but also a deep transformation with an expenditure of internal and external energy, and first-person implications. Those people who wait for the therapist to make the change in the first instance demonstrate a strong resistance and then they abandon therapy.
In psychotherapy, the therapist helps clients help themselves
The person may choose psychotherapy, driven by strong motivation, and then realize that He has no will to change. This may be the cause of discontinuation of psychotherapy:
There are clients who prefer to live with the usual and reassuring psychological suffering, rather than having to venture into the unknown of the therapeutic process.
The fear of change nullifies people’s will to do so.
Change is not easy and it involves hard work.
The therapist does not have the magic wand to solve your problems.
be wrong to be safe
Another cause of resistance to change is what is defined as the fear of losing the secondary benefits of the disease.
The dysfunctional emotional states Not only do they cause difficulties and suffering, but they can also provide secondary benefits: for example, emotional dysfunction allows the subject to be in the center of attention of others.
The stereotypical manifestation of certain emotions, even if they are painful, can become a constant trait of identity, which allows the person to recognize themselves and be recognized by others: expressing their own feeling of loneliness or showing themselves as an abandoned, incapable, helpless child, can serve to attract attention or sympathy; Being a victim, feeling bad or angry can be helpful for not taking responsibility, commitments or acquiring power. There are clients, with different motivations, often in conflict, who put up strong resistance to the point of discontinuing psychotherapy, because they are not willing to give up the secondary advantages derived from their “sick” condition.
