The possibility of have sex with a friend It’s always a topic taboo Our culture seems to instruct us based on clichés concocted on the big screen: sex between friends ruins friendship.
But is that true, or is it nothing more than a mere invention? Have we become accustomed to drawing too rigid a line between friendship and sex?
A few months ago we asked ourselves if friendship can exist “just like that” between a man and a woman. Today we ask the question in reverse: What happens when two friends have sex?
Science defends the importance of maintaining relationships with friends
Several studies already maintain that having a night of passionate sex with a friend is not only not harmful, but could strengthen the relationship Therefore, we would no longer have to always weigh and choose between one thing or the other.
The reflection that most people usually make about this is that, once a sexual relationship has been maintained with a friend, the relationship always ends up ruined because one of the two ends up falling in love with the other and therefore things happen to a different level.
Investigation
An extensive study carried out at Boise State University has confirmed that the generalized thinking is false and that sex between friends is indeed capable of improving the relationship, at least in the majority of cases they analyzed.
300 people were surveyed, and More than 75% acknowledged that having had sexual relations with a friend had strengthened their friendship 20% admitted, along the same lines, that at some point in their lives they had had sex with a close friend and that, far from spoiling the friendship, the intimate contact had made them feel closer as friends.
It seems that more and more people are willing to maintain sporadic sexual contact with a friend without having to confuse feelings or shake the foundations of the friendship.
Couples that start as a simple friendship tend to last longer.
Another conclusion of the study is the following: 50% of those surveyed who had a partner and had started their current relationship as a simple friendship, still remained close to their partner. In other words: People who start out as friends and then become boyfriends are more likely to last longer
This may be because the level of trust and understanding is higher in these cases than in people who quickly met and paired up without having gone through the friendship stage.
Some tips about sex and friendship
Despite everything, researchers reached certain conclusions about the practice of mixing friendship with sex. Those who have in mind having a friendship relationship “with friction” should be aware of several things.
One, they must know the other person well and make it clear in advance what we expect from it, so as not to give rise to unrealistic expectations that could end up hurting someone. Two, prioritize friendship over intimate relationships if the latter can have negative consequences for one of the two. One of the main drawbacks of having an afer with a friend is, precisely, that we may be laying the groundwork for a potentially toxic friendship. Therefore, you have to be careful and try to do things right.
Although the idea that friends can have sex without one of them being hurt by the experience is not widely accepted culturally, this research that we have explained puts into focus the speed with which our way of relating is changing. mutating, and thus our conception of right and wrong.
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