Although today it is considered a fashion or a popular tool, in reality Coaching It is one of the oldest human empowerment tools that exist, in addition to those that bring the most self-knowledge, learning and well-being to people. Because?
Simply because this tool follows the principles of human nature itself: listen, know yourself, see yourself, and through a mirror that asks powerful questions (that’s the coach), discover all the potential we have and develop it through action (in addition to reflection). However, today there are thousands of myths about Coaching and this makes it difficult for us to know what the reality and potential of this tool is. Don’t be fooled. Find out what it is with this article, but above all don’t forget to experience it.
Coaching, in fact, comes from the Socratic dialogue Socrates, with his followers, employed a system of active listening and powerful questions so that they themselves could discover how they interpreted life, tried to solve problems, or what their blocks were (blocks that we create ourselves, through our values, beliefs, impressions, interpretations, judgments about others and ourselves, always biased and limited).
This tool was modernized in the last 20th century with the practice of tennis, and later, with the development of a new type of business consulting in the US (where these consultants, with the support of social psychologists, discovered that the most profound changes occurred in people who took responsibility for their decision-making and were aware that they were the ones who could change their reality by changing something about themselves). Today, Coaching is a powerful tool for human empowerment, both for companies… and for any person, since Coaching works with people, it is a system for human beings.
Why then are there so many myths if the tool is so simple? Mainly for three reasons. Firstly, Coaching has become so popular (due to the powerful results it offers) that there is a lot of professional intrusion. In short, many people claim to be a “coach” when they are not, but rather they offer talks, try to motivate, and sell you a theory of happiness, or advise you in some way (in nutrition, sports, public speaking, well-being, entrepreneurship , couple life, etc.).
Secondly, because There are too many Coaching labels today, when in reality there is only Coaching and labels are just marketing strategies. And thirdly, because many people, instead of informing themselves and experiencing what Coaching really is, prefer to be left with an erroneous impression. We are going to explain 10 simple myths about Coaching… to help you really know what it is 😉
1. Coaching is for companies
Coaching is a tool that intelligent and human companies usually use. Because? Because the results they obtain depend on the state in which people are… When a person awakens their potential and feels fulfilled, their professional results are greater. So Coaching is not for companies… but for people, and companies are made up of people.
Coaching is for anyone who wants awaken your talent and experience a profound change.
2. Coaching is training
Although in English “coach” means to train, the Coaching profession owes its name to the term “kocz” from the Hungarian language, which means “car.” It is said this way because a Coaching process is like a car trip, from where you are (how you think, believe, feel and act now) to where you can be (where you want to be if you develop that part of you that is a little stuck).
Coaching does not motivate, but accompanies a person so that they learn to motivate themselves This is effective and lasts forever, while a group motivation is just that… a talk whose effect wears off over time. Remember that Coaching is a tool that takes place privately and personally, between the person and the coach, not in groups. Coaching tools can be used in a group, but it will never be like an authentic Coaching process.
4. Coaching is a system to make money
Nothing is further from reality. Coaching is a tool for human empowerment, where you choose your goals and what you want to achieve in your life, what you want to change about yourself, what area of ​​your personality you want to develop, what you want to learn.
5. Coaching is therapy
Coaching is not therapy or psychology. Coaching is a tool focused on the present, on what is happening, and above all on solutions and your learning, while therapy focuses on problems or dysfunctional behaviors.
6. Coaching is professional training
Coaching helps you discover your talent and develop it, and this may or may not serve you professionally, it depends again on your objectives. A true Coach accompanies you to achieve your goals, and you are the one who learns from yourself. A coach does not train you, he does not teach you, he does not instruct you, he is not a teacher. A coach only accompanies you expertly so that you learn from yourself, as Socrates did with his students, as if it were a faithful mirror of yourself.
7. Coaching is a technique to quit smoking, lose weight or have better self-esteem
The objectives you choose in Coaching depend on you. You will tell your coach and that professional will help you focus clearly on what you want. Coaching is never a system to achieve specific objectives, but rather the person chooses them freely.
8. Coaching is a fashionable tool
As we said, Coaching is as old as Socrates Coaching has probably existed since one human being listened to another, understood his way of seeing life, and asked him a question that made him realize that everything can be different.
Coaching results They don’t happen by magic nor are they based on any “secret”. It is you, the person, who achieves the results with your change, with your actions, with your commitment. The coach accompanies you on that path.
10. Coaching transforms your life
Coaching is just a tool, but the protagonist is you. The coach is an expert in accompanying you on a path in which you will learn rapidly about yourself and where you can change your mental programming or way of seeing life and feeling it… in such a way that something will change in you and you can be more yourself than ever, more natural and full. It is you who transforms yourself.
And finally, an important myth, not about Coaching… but about coaches:
11. Being a coach is easy, you just have to have charisma…
A coach is above all a professional, a person trained in Coaching in an arduous way (at least, University master’s degree and several years of learning and professional experience, in addition to setting an example with his own lifestyle, motivated by changes, challenges, responsibility and commitments). A coach is not the protagonist, but you are the protagonist. The success of a coach is the success achieved by the people he works with. A coach can be a great speaker or have charisma, but above all you need a lot of learning, humility and experience, in addition to knowledge and training. In reality, the most beautiful thing about this tool that can make us see how very valuable we are and the great power we have to change our reality… is being a coachee (the person who hires the coach and wants to live the process).
Also remember that a Coaching process takes place privately between coachee (client) and coach, in private sessions (between 6 and 12). Coaching It is just a system to accelerate your learning and discover yourself in time Dare to start a path towards yourself.
