It is common to think that resilience is something similar to a innate ability a faculty that arises spontaneously in some people who have to face adverse situations.
However, Resilience is not a trait of the person who is born with it, nor is it part of the typical temperament of this person It is a process in which the individual enters into a dynamic of interactions with others and with the environment so that he is able to overcome adversities.
In other words: psychological resilience is not something you have, but rather it is something you develop and learn to maintain.
That is why one of the pillars of resilience is found directly in the habits of the person who manages to develop it. These characteristic habits of people trained in resilience can be as varied and flexible as there are ways of living life, but broadly speaking, ten can be named that are applicable to most cases.
What things do these types of people have in common?
1. They take steps to improve their self-esteem
They are able to recognize that the actions they take today will change the way they perceive themselves tomorrow. For this reason, they direct part of their actions towards improving self-esteem and self-confidence, and they do so more or less consciously, to ensure the effectiveness of these measures and to be constant in this task.
Creativity is one of the ways to make all our thoughts focus on solving a new challenge. The perception of creating something original makes this habit highly stimulating, and the feeling of having finished a piece of work that is unique in the world is highly pleasant Resilient people know this and that is why they like to alternate day-to-day customs with a bit of novelty and demands on themselves.
3. They maintain a stoic attitude when appropriate…
People capable of developing good resilience are able to detect those situations in which it is practically impossible to make the context change in the short or medium term. This makes it possible for do not have vain illusions and that their efforts to adapt to what happens to them focus on managing their way of experiencing what happens in this new situation.
4. …But they don’t stop looking for goals!
Accept situations that at first seem overwhelmingly bad, such as a breaking off After a long courtship or the outbreak of an illness, it does not mean that from that moment on all aspects of that person’s life revolve around that context perceived as negative. Resilient people show a propensity to take advantage of selective attention: Instead of spending all day thinking about the bad things that happen to them, they focus on the objectives to be developed. Ultimately, setting goals with personal meaning, no matter how insignificant or transcendental these objectives may be, is what allows us to manage our habits well and take control of our actions. Resilience consists, in part, of orient yourself towards the horizon of the possible
5. They surround themselves with people with a positive attitude
Resilient people are resilient, among other things, because they have gone through some tough situation that has led them to train in their own emotional management. This means that they assume the existence of an anxiety source that can generate tension, and far from trying to ignore it or try to suppress its memory (something practically impossible), they simply direct their attention elsewhere. For example, towards people with a positive attitude. Getting involved in a receptive and supportive community is a good way to facilitate the management of emotions. Make there be a flow optimism and longing for personal growth Going from the environment to yourself makes everything easier.
6. …But also with all types of human beings!
Living life normally includes not being limited by a bubble of friends and acquaintances who meet very specific characteristics. Therefore, someone with a good command of the coping strategies You will have no problem interacting with all kinds of people from time to time.
7. They spend all day doing things
While it’s time to sleep, of course! Maintaining an active attitude helps them focus and reach their desired goals which in turn has a positive impact on their own self-esteem and self-confidence.
8. They practice sports and/or some type of meditation
The meditation It seems to have multiple benefits, including facilitating the emergence of positive thoughts and reducing stress, as explained in this article. Sport, for its part, also serves to relax and gain self-confidence. Both habits, furthermore, are still very solid routines for daily life or, in other words, small daily goals.
9. They use humor to empower themselves
Humor is an invaluable resource to make things less important while getting a smile in return. Making jokes about something related to personal problems is perfectly healthy, considering that the topic is addressed by obtaining an emotional response that is pleasant and frees us from the weight of stress. Of course, as a resilience strategy they should be spontaneous and genuinely funny jokes. Self-imposed humor can be a defense mechanism if you only treat jokes as a mask.
10. They set aside moments to think about what they can do in the long term.
Facing adversity means looking beyond the stress or sadness that may be experienced from time to time. Therefore, someone who has managed to enter a dynamic of resilience plans their objectives and makes some of them projected into the long term. This helps to keep thoughts fixed on those things that can be changed for the better and, furthermore, the fact that be able to materially change the context It makes it easier to face negative situations.
11. They invite others to participate in their projects
Resilient people make it a habit to encourage others to participate in their projects, whether simple and short-term or ambitious and based on a goal that will take time to achieve. The meaning of this is spread positive attitude to others and, at the same time, make this positive attitude return to oneself through the satisfaction of others, like an echo. Additionally, projects that involve many people are often more absorbing and stimulating than those done alone, as the expectations that others place on us encourage us to continue.
12. They soak up culture
To develop resilience there is nothing like exploring alternative ways of thinking and acting. And, to achieve this, living the culture is essential; In this way thinkers are discovered, authors and artists who reveal their mental world to us and teach us that life can be experienced in many more ways than we believed at first. Ultimately, as the thinking options we can choose from grow, so does our freedom and our ability to experience things in satisfying ways. In this sense, resilient people always surround themselves with stimulating forms of cultural expression.
