The 3 Causes Of Discouragement And Lack Of Desire (and Their Solution)
If there is a psychological difficulty that has multiplied in recent years, it is discouragement or lack of desire, which can also lead to depression.
We live in a hyper-stimulating world, and in turn, we increasingly feel discouragement, discomfort, apathy and emptiness. We don’t know what decisions to make and the way out of that endless circle doesn’t seem to come. Why do we feel this way? How can we solve it?
Feeling discouraged, apathetic or lacking desire at certain times in our lives is natural. However, the fact that it is such a common state is completely counterproductive, it causes us greater blockage and over time it can lead to depression.
In my case, as a psychologist and coach, I increasingly accompany more and more people seeking to get out of this situation in their personal change processes. In all these cases we see that There are 3 fundamental factors that lead us towards discouragement, apathy or lack of desire.
The objective we have in this article is for you to delve deeper into what is happening to you, and above all, for you to find tools to begin to solve it. Everything I am going to tell you is based on my experience as a psychologist who has been helping people solve these problems since 2012, in a stable and profound way. Let’s go for it.
As we talk, feeling discouraged at certain times in our lives is natural. Discouragement implies a moment of rest, distance from what is happening, which can help you gain perspective, increase your openness and come to solutions. However, discouragement or lack of desire that is too frequent, intense and long-lasting can lead to a major blockage.
Discouragement is an unpleasant emotion that implies a lack of interest in action and is based on the belief that our actions are irrelevant. That is, we do not act because we believe that it will not make sense to act. Discouragement is also contagious: as our behavior becomes more due to discouragement or apathy, this discouragement increases and your own emotional world tends more and more towards demotivation.
Its meaning is to help you gain perspective, and this in itself is positive. The problem is not discouragement, but the way in which you are understanding and managing that emotion in such a way that you have immersed yourself in that state.
The 3 causes of discouragement and apathy
Discouragement or apathy can be caused by 3 main reasons or a combination of all three. The first and most important thing you must understand is that discouragement is not a primary cause that is, it does not come into your life spontaneously, but rather arises as a result of other events, and above all, it depends on your actions.
This is good news, since it means that the solution also depends on you and your personal change.
These are the 3 main causes of discouragement, apathy and lack of desire:
1. Reaction to anxiety
When we have been suffering from anxiety for too long (which is a state of fear that has become generalized, which causes us intrusive thoughts, physical discomfort and a constant state of alert and anguish) our body becomes exhausted, and as an outlet it generates discouragement. Anxiety is exhausting and causes us so much discomfort that it blocks our lives. Feeling discouraged as a reaction to anxiety is a common consequence ; hence the famous “anxious-depressive” condition is diagnosed. If this is your case, you should know that the solution is to face anxiety first. When you reduce the intensity of anxiety, everything begins to become easier. We achieve this in a few weeks through adequate breathing.
When you get used to your well-being depending on external factors that you cannot control (the behavior of others, how they value you, your situation at work, the results of a project) generates anxiety, insecurity, and over time, discouragement. A self-esteem that works is what makes your well-being depend, mainly, on you. If this is your case, you already know where we have to start working and applying changes.
3. Going too long without rewarding yourself
Discouragement also comes from the lack of positive stimuli, but They should be non-material rewards or rewards from other people, but rather the natural ones that arise from your own behavior. When you forget about yourself, discouragement will come. If this is your case, we must start working with behaviors that generate that well-being by your own means.
The relationship between discouragement and depression
Sometimes we don’t know if what is happening to us is discouragement, apathy or even depression. Depression is actually a state of discouragement that has become stable, such that your energy is low. But we do not reach this state quickly, but rather through a long and sometimes invisible process. This is why it is so important that you learn to manage your discouragement now, so that it is not stable and does not lead to bigger problems.
Discouragement and doubts (fear and insecurity)
Discouragement also generates constant doubts. Will I be able to? Does it make sense to dare? Doubts are always a consequence of fear and insecurity, which have the tool of blocking you through questions and hypotheses.
The way to get rid of doubts is not an eternal decision, but rather having an action plan that leads to concrete changes, which will make the doubts no longer make sense.
How to solve your problem with discouragement in a stable and practical way
The solution to this problem lies in your own personal change, not in magic tools or external solutions. Your own personal change must be focused on understanding and knowing how to manage what you feel, having concrete changes, and above all, that the company be constant.
For this reason, in my case, as a psychologist and coach, I do not only accompany with occasional sessions, but every day for any need you have and without consultation limit. In this way, we manage to face your difficulties at the moment they occur without necessarily waiting for a session. In addition, we work with weekly tools and sessions, so that it is a deep, complete, practical and stable change process. My goal is to accompany people in processes where they get 100% what they need and it is durable over time.
If that is what you want, remember that on this page you can see the option to schedule a first session with me, which you can have from home, to get to know each other, see what the problem is in your case, find a stable solution and analyze how I can accompany you in your process.
I send you lots of encouragement. Remember that the opposite of discouragement is not joy, but confidence. Go for it.
