The 5 Personality Traits And Their Relationship With Your Love Life
Couple love, that space in our lives that we decide to share with another person creating emotional bonds, is something that can take many forms and that varies greatly depending on the time and place.
However, in our love life there is something that is constant and always there, affecting the way we perceive our relationship with the other person and the way we interact with them**. It is about our personality or, more specifically, those personality traits that define us**.
And if it is true that our personality affects us in all areas of our life, it is no less true that our love relationships are one of the most important aspects of our existence. Therefore, everything we know about personality traits, brought to light from decades of scientific research, can be used to know, approximately, the characteristics of the way in which we tend to experience love.
That is why, if we are interested in trying to establish approximate predictions about what our love life will be like, it is much more advisable to base it on what is known about personality traits than to do so based on pseudosciences such as astrology.
Personality traits and love relationships
Below you can read what those are aspects of personality traits that help us understand how we experience romantic relationships
To do this, we will take as reference the Model of the 5 big personality traits, also known as the Big Five, in which these personality dimensions are established: extraversion, neuroticism, openness to experience, responsibility and kindness.
1. Extraversion
This dimension of personality serves to establish the extent to which we tend to be assertive people who seek social interaction in the present. Therefore, It is used to measure whether we are more or less socially active or, on the contrary, introverted and difficult to access
Extroverted people are more exposed to interaction and dialogue with other people, since they encounter these types of situations. That’s why they can more easily polish their social skills and become charismatic people with relative ease in finding a partner and managing the relationship with the person in whom you have a romantic interest.
However, this personality trait is also related to the tendency to seek short-term relationships and seek novelty in one’s love life, looking for new partners and not valuing monogamous life as much as others (something reminiscent of the Coolidge effect).
So, Introverted people may have more difficulty finding a partner but, if they learn to communicate well with their partner, they are more likely to dedicate efforts to making the relationship stable and lasting.
2. Neuroticism
Neuroticism is the dimension that measures the degree to which we are emotionally stable or, on the contrary, we are very sensitive to changes in mood and anxiety levels. Thus, people who have a high level of neuroticism are volatile and have more difficulties in self-control of their emotional states.
When it comes to love life, a high score on the trait of neuroticism means a greater likelihood of developing dissatisfaction in the relationship or marriage, and of getting divorced.
This may be because People with a higher degree of neuroticism are especially sensitive to stress and, furthermore, it is difficult for them to manage their actions so that this is not a problem in their relationships with others. Therefore, they will be more likely to generate conflicts with some frequency and it will be difficult for them to solve them by establishing effective means of communication with their partner, since to do so they should adopt a calm attitude and see the problem with a colder perspective.
People who, on the contrary, are characterized by their emotional stability, will have an easier time making these problems appear and reproduce themselves over time.
3. Openness to experience
This personality trait indicates our propensity towards curiosity and the way in which we value living novel experiences or, on the contrary, the degree to which we like to base our lives on rigid and stable rules. In addition, it is the feature of the Big Five model that has the least repercussions on our love life. contrary to what happens with neuroticism, which allows us to better predict what our relationships will be like.
If we must point out one fact in which openness to experience is significant in our romantic relationships, it is in our intimate relationships. A study indicates that women with higher scores on this trait have relationships of this type more frequently, while this effect was not present in men. This may mean that, in marriages, it is women who decide what happens in their bedroom and how often, since men are willing to be intimate more frequently.
Responsibility is the trait that indicates our tendency to follow the necessary steps to achieve medium and long-term objectives and to show ourselves disciplined. In romantic relationships, a high score in this trait indicates a greater probability of avoiding infidelities and generating well-being in life as a couple. Likewise, people who have this more marked personality trait show a propensity to avoid the risks of pregnancy and the transmission of venereal diseases.
5. Kindness
Agreeableness indicates the degree to which we are receptive to friendly treatment or tend toward hostility As with the responsibility trait, it correlates positively with satisfaction in marriage, possibly because it facilitates communication and makes the appearance of direct confrontations more difficult.
