To prevent us from forgetting everything we have learned and the skills we have developed, let’s review them.
1. A secure attachment has been fostered in the little ones
The first and most important: a secure attachment has been fostered in children Being there with the children, playing, teaching them things about school, and in general being available to the children for a long time, has been the best gift they could give them, for optimal psychological development.
In the future our children will have a better chance of having strong psychological health, and that will have been our responsibility as fathers, mothers and caregivers.
2. More ideas about what your family is interested in
As a couple, now you surely have a lot of gift ideas for birthdays, anniversaries, etc. And as a parent you will know what your children are going to ask the kings months in advance, except for the last minute fashionable toy.
First of all, childless couples have gained sensual wisdom Sexual relations have been unhurried, even lasting an hour or more. Many couples have learned to enjoy foreplay, new forms of sexuality, the play that a simple feather can give, post-coital caresses and hugs…
On the other hand, couples with children have gained sexual wisdom in another sense. With the children at home 24 hours a day, the imagination to find moments in which to let out the passion will have grown spectacularly.
4. Experience in emotional regulation
Both couples and families have gained several emotional self-regulation techniques and negotiation skills. And in extreme situations such as this confinement, it has had to be negotiated and renegotiated.
The practice of continuous negotiation, as well as knowing how to give in on certain occasions, has been the usual practice of each day of confinement. Example: “Today I take the dog out, you took it out yesterday.” “Today I’ll take the kids out and you take the dog out and scrub…”
5. Possibility of leaving addictions behind
Addicts, especially face-to-face or slot gamblers, and to a lesser extent alcoholics, They have gained a perfect period of abstinence to learn to control themselves and see all the money they have saved during confinement on bets.
It is important that the family who knew about the gambling addiction let them know, highlighting the money saved. Of course, now you have to maintain yourself indefinitely, either with personal, family or professional help.
Many of us now have new hobbies because we have learned to cook, exhausting the yeast from the supermarkets, we have enjoyed the food made by us and that we will be able to make again during the weekends and holidays.
In addition, we have recovered reading habits, we have watched series that we wanted, we have rediscovered board games, or online games, or we have become handymen fixing damage around the house…
7. We have gained computer knowledge
IT has proven to be the great beneficiary of this confinement. Now we can work online with ease , we have done videoconferences with friends, and the children have learned that the computer is also useful for studying. With a little luck we will be able to avoid daily traffic jams between 2 and 3 times a week during this year and the next, saving time for ourselves and money that we will not spend on transportation.
Conclusion
We have gone through confinement, but… in perspective, are we now stronger than before? Surely, clever reader, you have realized that the title is 10 good things about confinement and there is only a list of 7. I have left the last three so that, in the comments, you can share with the rest of the readers what has made stronger during confinement. What have been your learnings?
