If I had to choose a question that usually comes to mind recurrently in the most arduous and complicated moments of our existence, for me it would be none other than the mystery that begins with “why?”.
If you have decided to start reading this article, it was probably motivated by the interest aroused by the question in question. Well, especially for you, this reflection is important.
Find the answers about everything
Why has this happened to me? Why did he leave? Why doesn’t he love me? Why am I not able to get it? Why do I fall into the same trap over and over again? Why don’t people like me? Why is the world like this? Why do people behave that way? Why, why, why…?
As a defense mechanism, we try to understand in a more or less logical way, more or less fair, more or less rational, a world that on many occasions has little that is logical, fair or rational. But as if it were a bureaucratic request, it is difficult for us to skip that first step of the procedure. That phase in which we understand unequivocally that something is failing, it is not going as we expected or it is simply like that and there is nothing left but to accept it, no matter how absurd it may seem to us.
Such is the case of children who, having everything, do not know how to value anything and who, faced with any daily setback, are unable to overcome the resulting level of frustration. Or those couples, who seem perfect, overnight make us perplexed by their incomprehensible breakup. There is also the reason for those who are young, beautiful and slender, at the same time as insecure, timid or conformist. Or the reason for the talented young man who continually dedicates himself to wasting his talent, preferring other channels through which to guide his destiny.
There is also why the boss likes to surround himself with subjects instead of critics, for the greater glory of his ego compared to the success of his company. Or why, enjoying innumerable strengths, he fears the worst omens that may never come, in a multitude of areas of his existence… and before all of them, something even deeper could be raised and incomprehensible at the same time, the why of my whys.
Get out of the vicious cycle of thinking
Following the usual script of a literary article, now would be the precise moment in which it would be appropriate to offer the pertinent answers to the questions posed, but I am very afraid that anyone who expected such a thing at this moment will be beginning to feel a certain feeling of disappointment. while advancing along these lines.
Indeed, I don’t have a single, genuine or original answer that can offer an answer to the innumerable list of “whys” raised so far, and even if it did, I doubt it could offer peace or satisfaction to anyone who held such expectations. If that has been your case, perhaps it is advisable that you sharpen your senses and pay attention even more, if possible, to what follows this paragraph.
Go beyond the reasons
When we ask ourselves why, we begin a journey. A trip that takes us back to our past. We watched the horror movie over and over again that led us to consider the need to find an explanation to such misfortune, because when things are going well, few people consider the “why” of it and if they do, they do not usually spend too much time developing the pertinent analyses.
My question for the former would be, what do you hope to find there, in the past, that you have not already found? This figurative trip to the past, to what we were, did or lost will only justify or, in other words, excuse our present behavior, irrevocably condemning us to repeat our fateful destiny over and over again, due to the immobility that occurs. to this type of analysis.
If what we want is to leave an episode behind, overcome a limitation, grow, advance and develop, We cannot settle for an explanation, for a “why.”. We will have to look for arguments for change, motivations and hopes that implement new actions, which in turn can produce new results, because if we are aware of something, it is that where these “whys” take us is not where we want to go.
