Do you depend on your partner financially? how does it make you feel? And above all, what consequences does this situation bring?
There are many cases of women who have passed by my office worried and anxious about their future and that of their children after thinking that their romantic relationship is on the verge of a breakup. It turns out that they have been women who have never had a working life and who have depended financially on their partners.
It really catches my attention, because when I ask why they haven’t worked, they answer: “that they don’t need it”, “that just one person working is enough”, “that they are very well off like that”, “that they don’t “They know what to do and they cannot pay for training”, etc., tending towards self-sabotage of any form of productivity that takes them out of that rosy, circumstantial comfort. As if it were difficult for them to understand that Every person must work to feel useful and independent
In the case of a couple, a thousand things can happen that lead to a breakup. What would happen if they stopped loving them? A person can stop loving another! And what would an economically dependent woman do if her partner proposed a breakup or separation? How could she support herself? How could she support her children, even if she gave her a “little money” from her ex-partner?
This whole situation that I simply present briefly, brings some Psychological consequences, emotional and economic in the life of women. Very often in these cases, the discomfort of being financially dependent on the partner can lead women to states of deep depression. And they are an accumulation of things. Let’s not also forget the in-laws and friends who do not recognize them, call them “kept”, and endless labels.
While a woman does not work, her partner develops progressively over time, personally and professionally within your work world. He meets new people, independent women, learns new things, sets out to achieve challenges, earns his own money which makes him feel proud, etc. That is to say, while couples are trained and filled with enriching experiences, women become brutalized.
I can’t agree more than with that phrase that circulates on Facebook that says: “Women, take to the streets because the house brutalizes, ages and no one thanks you.”
In reference to this expression, I focus on the type of men they have as partners. exist emotionally immature men and they prefer these types of women whom they can constantly control and manipulate, and they never thank them. And then, the other group who are emotionally mature, notice the great differences between their partners and others. independent women (they meet them at work), and begin to lose interest in their relationship to the point of considering a breakup. So, neither one nor the other, thank you.
Simone de Beauvoir says ‘Dependency, although women adapt to it and even congratulate themselves on it, never ceases to be a curse.’
My orientation: train yourself works, seek your personal development, work and economic, with this you will achieve a better quality of life. If possible! It is sad to depend on what your husband or partner can give you, as well as outrageous to ask him, as if you were not capable of getting it, or that he controls what you spend and makes you feel small.
