We are immersed in our environment. Since we were little, we interact with it, producing a continuous reciprocal transaction in such a way that the slightest imbalance can lead to anxiety as a response to it, as a rebalancing mechanism, or some degree of somatization occurs in the form of indisposition, difficulty falling asleep and other psychophysiological effects.
Especially defenseless to these imbalances with the environment are the children under six years old
Your entire universe is in the domestic circle, which absorbs multiple external influences, for this reason The minor is continually exposed to the pressure and peculiarities of the social environment in general and the family unit in particular Under certain conditions, insecure child syndrome may appear.
Causes of insecurity in childhood
Serious imbalances in their environment, such as the death of parents, generate anxiety, sadness and can worsen into serious depression and painful experiences of insecurity.
Other seemingly minor changes such as a move, a lost pet, etc., can cause the same symptoms. At this young age, routine offers security, so Situations that break this balance are experienced as a danger, creating dissociation and anxiety patterns
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What is the transitional object?
He transitional object usually a doll, a blanket, a cushion, a pacifier, etc., which reminds and symbolizes the child’s family environment. When, due to circumstances, the child must face a move, the transitional object acts as an insurance tool, strengthened by the magical thinking of children, preventing the alteration of their vital environment from being excessive and the feelings of insecurity. and fear can be unbearable.
What does the object of possession reveal to us about the child?
It is an element of approval and acceptance of the new environment. It means positivity and good receptivity towards the new context. The child and the transitional object revolve on the basis of insecurity. The device of the transitional object resides in the spatio-temporal alteration, in such a way that the domestic atmosphere is migrated to another location, however, the object of possession is a rewarding object “per se” since its own essence is especially positive for the child It is a companion of affirmation to face new horizons.
Most common signs and symptoms in insecure children
The experience of insecurity causes a regression to previous phases of development. Some of the signs that we can observe in an insecure child are:
Behavioral changes in diet: long chewing, primary gobbling, clicking sounds when chewing, flatulence, loss of basic skills such as using a spoon and fork, poor manners, selective rejection, vomiting and reluctance.
Presence of coercive behaviors in masturbation.
Behavioral sleep modifications: restlessness, sleep talking (somniloquy), night terrors, frequent interruptions of sleep with crying to parents and request to leave a light on, request to leave the door open and request that parents be with him until he falls asleep, opposition to going to bed, requesting to be told a story with physical contact and resisting falling asleep.
Decrease in school productivity: problems concentrating in studies.
Difficulties in body and oral expression: eccentric grimaces and gestures, stumbling burlesque or tragic language.
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