The Mathematics Of Sexual Pleasure In Men And Women
next is graphic representation of female and male sexual arousal curves The curve on the left corresponds to that of men and to the right is that of women.
The simplicity and speed of the male curve compared to the female curve is easily observable, as expected. We also see that at the end of the feminine curve there are four different options, this represents four types of orgasmic response in women.
These curves represent the levels of arousal during sexual intercourse. It must be clarified that these representations collect general values in the population and that each person is different and has their particular sexual response. But let’s go to the detail of the graph.
First of all, five overlapping curves are actually shown here. Firstly, the masculine response on the left of the graph, followed by the feminine sexual response, which has a common part, the phases of intimacy, excitement and tension and according to sexologist Marina Castro, it leads to four possible responses: Explosive orgasm (E), Multi-orgasmic (M), Sustained orgasm (S) and Without orgasm (SO).
The male curve represents the level of arousal in a context of sexual activity with genital contact This means that if the man is aroused and manipulated genitally either by another person in a sexual relationship with a partner or by himself in a masturbation situation, his arousal response is very rapid as shown by the upward slope that culminates in orgasm. , the maximum point of the graph, to descend in free fall to the basal level or zero excitation. Therefore, orgasm is an end point of excitement and often of sexual intercourse.
Here we have an important problem and source of conflict in the couple: if the man focuses on his excitement and search for orgasm, the party will be over for him when the woman has not even begun to hear the music of a party that will have little to do with celebration and that will end without having enjoyed a sad canapé. In a few seconds we will have a man snoring with a childish smile and a woman on the warpath wanting to strangle that smile. Later we will see what can be done about it.
The female curve is much larger over time, can be developed in different ways and has several possible endings, it can even be coupled to another excitation cycle without having finished the first. We see that the complexity of a woman’s arousal is much greater and so is the ability to obtain pleasure and enjoy sex, and it is indisputable that it is the woman who dominates over the man in terms of sexual pleasure and richness of orgasms.
Observing the curve we see that the initial slope of excitation is much gentler, it takes much more time to approach high levels of excitation. We can also observe that the orgasm is different from the male orgasm and on some occasions or some women do not reach it and we also see that the resolution phase is in almost all cases very different from the male one, with a gentle fall or a cyclical recovery towards another or other orgasms.
How do we measure pleasure mathematically?
This is where mathematics comes into play. If the curves on the graph represented five possible subjects, one man and four women, who experiences more pleasure? Some might say that those who have the maximum points, namely the man and the woman with explosive orgasm. In these two cases, we find maximum levels of excitement, but not pleasure
Sexual pleasure is the level of arousal for the time we maintain this level and this is mathematically defined by the area of the region under the graph of each curve. But before continuing, we are going to give some notions of analytical calculus, one of my favorite areas of mathematics, and specifically about integrals.
Theorem:
Let’s see its graphic representation:
The symbol that looks like an elongated S is the symbol for the integral. f(x) is the mathematical function with which the graph curve is represented, a and b are the initial and final points between which the integral is bounded, and d(x) is a mathematical term that refers to the independent variable and which you can be grateful that I do not explain because it far exceeds the purpose of this article, and I assure you that it is very far from any relationship with any orgasm. But that’s what we’re going for. Can we do a mathematical analysis of sexual pleasure and orgasm?
If we analyze the sexual arousal curve shown at the beginning, we see that sexual pleasure is the integral of the function of the curve between points a and b, where a = 0, starting point in time and b is the final point to integrate, where the excitation returns to the initial level and the curve decays to the lower or abscissa axis.
What sex dominates in bed?
If we mathematically measure the sexual pleasure of men and women, there is no doubt that women are the stronger sex.
If we call fh the function that represents the sexual arousal graph of the man and fm that of the woman, we have that:
This means that according to our graph, the pleasure obtained by any of the women represented, regardless of their orgasmic resolution, is greater than the short pleasure obtained by the man.
All this suggests several things to us:
The male priority in the relationship should be the search for pleasure and not the orgasm since this is a brief moment of high excitement that follows with a sudden fall that puts an end to the relationship and the pleasure itself.
Maximum sexual pleasure for the couple It is achieved by equalizing the male and female curves this is mainly a man’s job to focus on his partner’s excitement and forget or rather run away from his own orgasm.
Let’s also keep in mind that only 25 percent of women safely experience orgasm during intercourse, and knowing the terrible orgasmic consequences of intercourse, we will have to think about something else.
Male and female sexual response coupling
After investigating the different sexual responses of men and women we can understand many of the problems that we may encounter personally as well as the vision that people may have about sex according to their particular experience. We can even understand collectives, or conceptions about sexuality throughout history and different cultures.
But how can we make a sexual relationship as pleasurable as possible for both the woman and the man? The first thing to work on is the inclination of the masculine curve to approach the feminine curve, for this the man must avoid focusing on your arousal and genitals to focus on your partner’s arousal. At this point it is convenient for the man to find the secret of his woman’s arousal and it is very easy: ask her what she likes!
It is very likely that she will get excited with words, with stories or fantasies, with caresses, kisses to the extent and intensity that she tells you. This gentle arousal curve will increase, and from here on it is in the man’s best interest to avoid his own orgasm. Let us remember that the male orgasm is the abrupt end of the man’s excitement and usually marks the end of the sexual relationship, therefore an important recommendation for mutual sexual enjoyment is this: the man’s orgasm should come after the woman’s.
Simultaneous orgasm as a goal is one of the great myths of sexuality, it can be achieved after a lot of experience and complicity in the relationship, but this should not be the goal.
As we have already indicated, the longer the levels of intimacy, arousal and especially sexual tension are maintained, the greater the graphs will be over time and the greater the integral. If we represent this mathematically, we see that the maximum sexual pleasure (Pmax) is equal to the sum of the maximum pleasure of the man and that of the woman, this is the pleasure obtained during the maximum time (tmax), where the pleasure of both is almost identical and here we have the long-awaited formula for maximum sexual pleasure:
I hope that this mathematical approach to sexual relations has been suggestive, pleasant and, perhaps, exciting.
