Unfortunately, more and more people are coming to a psychology consultation because of the discomfort they feel as a result of having been feeling emptiness in their lives for some time. Although it is a situation that has occurred throughout history, it is likely to be increasingly common in the type of individualistic society in which we live.
Since it is really important that we become aware of the importance and seriousness of this situation, throughout this article we address the problem of feeling empty. We talk about what it means to feel empty, the causes that give rise to this feeling along with its consequences and, finally, we present some strategies that may be useful.
It is not strange that, after having lived a highly impactful experience on a physical and/or emotional level, we feel this emptiness. If this feeling of apathy or lack of interest lasts a few days, it is not usually considered alarming since, when the experience is integrated, the person stops feeling this way.
The problem is perceived when this sensation persists over time and considerably affects different areas of the person’s life. It is then that we find that it is very common to speak of the feeling of emptiness also as “existential emptiness” and we can observe that the discomfort and suffering experienced are constant.
Although each person who has experienced this sensation may describe it slightly differently, The most common thing is to feel a general disinterest accompanied by a lack of motivation for the things that happen in our environment.. In these situations, it is often said or felt that there is no meaning in life.
When we talk about how this “existential void” can affect all areas of a person’s life, we mean that an emotional void can be felt (a sensation of not feeling or feeling indifference), void in terms of lack of vital energy, emptiness of desires (inability to prefer something or desire something), but there can also be the perception of emptiness at a cognitive level (feeling that one cannot think, remember, imagine, fantasize, etc.).
Why do we feel empty?
Have you ever connected with an intense feeling of emptiness? If the answer is yes, you will know how painful it is. If this is not your case, perhaps you have known someone who has experienced it and, in this way, you will also have had contact with the emotional pain it generates. The most common question is: why do we feel this way?
As usually happens when talking about a human emotional experience, The factors involved are multiple and diverse.. At a social level, aspects such as social pressure and the lack of a support network that is perceived as available, safe and free of judgment could be highlighted.
It is still paradoxical that, today, when we find ourselves in such a digitalized and “connected” era, there are so many people feeling deeply alone, a fact that is usually linked to the feeling of emptiness.
At the individual level, There are certain psychological factors that may be worsening and perpetuating this situation.. Without a doubt, the presence of low self-esteem, chronic stress, anxious and/or depressive symptoms can be decisive for the appearance of the feeling of emptiness.
In addition, there are certain factors that can be considered more “existential”, such as feeling that one does not have a purpose in life or considering how one’s presence or absence can affect the environment, which can also have a great weight when We talk about the appearance or maintenance of this feeling of existential emptiness.
Consequences of feeling empty
It has already been mentioned previously that the feeling of emptiness can become a problematic situation that generates a strong impact on the various areas of the person’s life. Below we will explain some of these consequences in more detail.
On a day-to-day basis, there can be significant difficulties in the relational sphere. This fact can trigger consequences of other types since it can affect both personal relationships (friendship, family, couple, etc.) as well as work relationships.
On an individual level, lack of motivation and the inability to enjoy previously enjoyable activities or relationships can increase isolation and loneliness. This fact increases the probability of suffering from certain emotional difficulties that, if not addressed in time, can lead to mental disorders or serious mental health pathologies.
Strategies to cope with the feeling of emptiness
It is complex to talk about strategies since each person is different. Thus, we could say that the first tool is to promote self-knowledge. This fact allows us a better understanding of what we are experiencing, the causes, the consequences…
In the line of individual work, it is considered that tools like mindfulness or meditation, which allow us to enhance full attention in the present moment, are highly beneficial. In addition, psychological therapy can be key in the process since the professional will adapt the intervention to the needs and reality of each person.
As we have seen, it is crucial to create, care for or build meaningful bonds with which we feel supported and accompanied. Perhaps it is time to observe the relationships that are present in our lives and reflect on what we feel they are providing us to know which ones nourish us and which ones do not provide us with what we need at this moment.
