A holiday for lovers, in which it is customary to praise the feelings already expressed towards our partner, or to express those that we have not said to the person we are attracted to, in which we also take advantage of social networks to show them to the whole world your love, affection and meaning to the person to whom it is directed, and where sales certainly register one of the greatest increases in the economy of each country. That’s Valentine’s Day. But not everything is positive.
In 2004, scientists at the University of Arizona found a sad fact about these dates: the high rates of breakups that fall in the week before Valentine’s Day and the subsequent week immediately following the holiday date.
Of course, it cannot be said that Valentine’s Day leads to a breakup in relationships, but… how does such a special date become a threat and become a test of the strength of a loving relationship?
We are involved in a world in which social networks prevail, in which even a photo of an acquaintance or stranger can become a threat.
For some people, the influence of social networks is felt more on Valentine’s Day, given that their use leads many couples to make comparisons This sometimes becomes a good reason to end a relationship on weak foundations. However, I clarify that the networks are not to blame. Because? Well, the root lies in dissatisfaction, which manifests itself in the expectations we had about our relationships.
When comparing those actions that are perceived as “failures,” on the one hand, and what are considered “ideal” couples, on the other, it may seem “intolerable” to stay together. A reason appears to think “my partner is not giving me the treatment I deserve.”
Go beyond one-sidedness in relationships
But why can comparison in search of a partner be so important to us?
It’s not because someone posts something on Facebook or shares a story on Instagram, it’s because some people may already have their own unrealistic expectations about themselves, about other people, and about what a romantic relationship between two people should be like. As a result, the world of human relationships becomes a mirror: people try to see themselves through the way others treat them
Given this, it is important to remember that each couple is happy in their own way and completely different from the rest. Let us remember that our partner opens a new world for us, brings his skills, experience, knowledge, love and also his flaws into our lives. It is not limited to being a container into which we pour our expectations and need for recognition that we already carry with us, nor should it allow us not to feel alone on days like Valentine’s Day, which are still social conventions created largely by everyone. a marketing device.
As a professional I recommend keeping a commitment to the ability to truly love and be loved, to be grateful for the person we have chosen as our partner, and not only on a special date, since being fully grateful is a way of appreciating what we have. I invite you to use gratitude in this intrinsically rewarding process of mutual discovery.
