Many couples, after years of living together, experience different emotional states that have to do with their feelings towards their partner.
The routine of living together, daily friction, raising children and even external interference shake the feelings that we have at the beginning of the relationship about our partner’s suitability to share life.
It is necessary in these moments to adopt a posture of serenity in the face of disappointment and an attitude of acceptance of our current reality. Only by admitting that we have a problem can we find the solution.
Causes of crisis
The normal crises that accompany the different evolutionary stages of couples and families. (First year of living together, birth of each child, children’s schooling, adolescence, empty nest, retirement…). These crises are part of the personal growth and learning that life offers us. It requires that it be approached from a renewed commitment, from the decision to continue growing with the partner that one day we choose, and with the will to find a solution to the conflicts that have immersed us in the current situation.
The imbalances in the individual evolution processes of each member of the couple.
The repetition of previous family dynamics that turn the couple’s life into a relationship that is more similar to that of the parents themselves than to the one desired by the couple.
The lack of a common life project.
Isolation and lack of communication, both for one and both members of the couple.
Interference from children, parents or external agents and circumstances (work stress, unemployment, economic difficulties, etc.).
The important thing is to find out what is happening with our relationship and what changes we can make to regain enthusiasm and passion.
It is very common today to resolve these issues with separation, with an unimaginable cost of suffering for all family members. However, many couples can avoid the pain of breaking their bond when there is love and a good foundation.
The percentage of couples who are saved if they go to therapy on time is very high. It is about learning to love each other as they are now, according to what they need at the current moment, which has nothing to do with what they wanted a few years ago, and knowing how to “blow out the embers” of the fire that once was the relationship. to enliven the feeling of love and fulfillment as a couple.
The key to success in any goal in life is commitment, perseverance and action. Get active! It’s worth it.
