What Is (and What Should It Be Like) Love In A Relationship?
Love is a choice that is made based on the background that one has according to the psychosocial environment in which the individual develops during the first years of life It is such a beautiful word with diverse and questionable meanings that encompasses patience, joy, unconditionality; and its demonstrations, which can range from being a sponge that absorbs everyday emotions to tasting the coffee before giving it to your partner.
Today we find people who are sad and even very angry with life for not having found true love. But what is true love? Your priority should be to love yourself, and then have the ability to share life with that beautiful being that comes your way.
Loving is a decision that must be made consciously, deciding to share life with someone who knows you well enough To know that you are sad despite laughing is an arduous but effective task, it is the only task that you should do well. It is the only decision you make in your life; That’s right, you can’t choose your parents, you can’t choose your children; But you can choose your partner, you can decide whether or not to stay with that person and decide to love them even so deeply as to spend the rest of your life with them. This decision must be conscious, calm and without haste. Because he is the person with whom you will share certain peccadilloes that will never come to light and will become deep, unique and unforgettable secrets that you will laugh extremely when you remember.
That person you choose is the one with whom you can be you without fear of anything and with whom you will have the freedom to express your fears, anxieties, dreams, desires and ideals no matter how silly they may seem; trust and acceptance is with all the defects and virtues. The person who makes you think and makes your thoughts fly, turning them into dreams and making them come true is the ideal one. She is the one who wants you to advance in life by achieving all your goals, and she helps you achieve them unconditionally; many times in silence. She is the one who is with you on your gray days (illness-sadness) and seeks to make you smile, showing you with every action that you are not alone.
However; It is not easy to find it, it is like searching in a library where there are a thousand interesting books, but you can only choose one exclusively for yourself. You do it very calmly, right? Thinking carefully about which one to choose, controlling your anxiety because you know that it is the only one you can take home without a refund; although for me; You don’t look for that person, he comes into your life just when tranquility invades you. That is why it is important to take care of your heart and heal the wounds caused in the past
So, what is love?
Love is a gift; loving is listening to what the other person wants to say with words and gestures ; entering with love and care into a heart that is often wounded by the blows that life and other people in whom one day trusted have caused. Loving is simple, it is knowing the other with all their imperfections; understanding that we are different and not perfect before the world, but if there is love there will be perfection for each other.
Love is wanting to be with that person all the time; It may even attract you more than going to watch football or shopping with an unlimited card; It is the desire to dedicate oneself to complementing the happiness of others. Love is longing to conquer your partner every day even if you already have them; Do things carefully so as not to hurt your heart.
Understand your fragility, whether you are a man or a woman, both are fragile. Decide to look face to face in silence; to solve everything together. Love goes beyond pleasure. It is leaving all that baggage that has hurt you and emptying your pockets, with the intention of starting a new path with that person, ready to travel wherever love takes them.
Enjoying love is beautiful, although it is not easy; Everything that has been brought, everything that has been carried up to this point on the path when meeting that person you want to love, is what hurts and what must be healed The ego must be broken for real and genuine love to be born; if it is what you want and you don’t know how to do it; I’ll wait for you in therapy to help you and accompany you on this journey of life.
