On days when we feel invaded by joy, we walk down the street beautified and bright by its presence It impacts for an instant and permeates the people we meet; it has the power to change the face of a total stranger. You could say that it is “contagious.” It is also “generous” because we naturally desire to share its rays of exuberance with others. At times it becomes a giant blanket that could cover more than an entire room and expand through its windows.
Joy can be annoying at times because it takes us by surprise and we don’t know what to do with it. Many times they tell us “don’t get so excited”, that has to do with the social convention of retaining it, as if it were smarter to show indifference or wear a poker face. With the presence of joy, we forget about daily worries, it serves as a tool so that the obstacles that we, all human beings, have to face day after day do not cost us or weigh us down so much.
The problem with joy is that it is as pure and as fragile as glass. The charm of joy is broken as soon as one tries to take control of oneself, or when we remember the problems we have that cause us anguish our fears, or our black clouds that threaten us every day, the joy ends when we remember the “giant” that we must face and we believe we do not have the strength to do so.
This action of “taking control of ourselves”, when we realize that we are overflowing with joy, is reflected with a movement of rigidity that is inscribed in our body, we straighten up and return to our usual state. In this sense, joy is a temporary exaltation, which culminates when we remember the weight of being alive.
It is real that We couldn’t stay forever in a state of joy this would lose its meaning, since it would not stand out against any background plane, and we would be enveloped in a cloud of constant euphoria, which could lead us to vanity and an excess of sensuality.
Joy and conformity
Joy is not a state, but a passing appearance One refers to a “joyful” person, but this is linked to a character trait. Joy bursts in and disappears. Sometimes we prefer the tranquility of conformity and routine to the shock of joy, many times we take refuge there, in our safe little place since we usually go from joy to sadness, from ecstasy to anguish, or from light to darkness.
The triumphant accent of joy, the ability to be joyful and the importance of therapy to be happier, because that is what therapy is about, to live in a happier way. Joy also comes from the success of long and arduous work on oneself, where we can understand and heal our fissures, our wounds, our ancestral fears, our limitations, as well as being able to believe and own our strengths and follow our path. path to what we want to be.
We are beings who must have a destination, know where we are going, many times we lose our way and what many believe to be depression appears, but it is not that we are depressed, but that we are distracted. We get off the path to where we are going. Psychotherapy is crucial to reach this state of self-knowledge and understanding
At some point joy also marks a victory, all joy has a triumphant accent and is repeatedly shared by many. For example, you can share the joy of having won a soccer game, the joy of a birth, an anniversary, or the joy of the triumph of a recent graduate. Which does not mean that we cannot feel joy when we are alone, and this, I believe, is the maximum state we can reach.
In order for joy to be present throughout life, it is important to achieve a match between what one is and what one wants to be. A coincidence in a state of continuous renewal, and permanently active between thought and desire for the future. We will be able to experience and feel joy, as well as happier moods in general, if we commit to treating ourselves better, which we can achieve through therapy.
