We are accustomed to move through life on autopilot I always say that I realized this in my own life one day when I got in the car and drove 20 km down the road without realizing it. When I arrived at the destination and parked, I felt like I had teleported there, I didn’t remember anything about my trip.
That day I left home worried, with doubts, and with many tasks to do.
I’m sure it happened to you too. Think of all the days that slipped through your hands without being savored, just surviving all your obligations
I imagine our modern mind as a race car track. In that maelstrom there is no space between stimulus and response. And yet, to stop putting out fires and start living with well-being, what we have to do is precisely pause and slow down our frenetic march We can adopt a mentality that invites us to do our daily tasks from a place of enjoyment and exploration, and with confidence in ourselves since we always know how to manage to overcome obstacles and move forward.
The term “mindset” was coined by Dr. Carol Dweck in her theory of growth mindset and fixed mindset. A person with a fixed mindset thinks they were born with certain abilities and IQ. This person is going to be motivated by looking intelligent, therefore, she is going to do everything in her power to prove it. She’s not going to take risks outside of her comfort zone because she’s afraid of making mistakes. She will feel afraid when she sees other people succeed because she will see it as a threat to your own chances of advancement
This person will work until they are tired in the areas in which they consider they are good at things (in their work, in their studies, or in sports). The other’s gaze influences him greatly, because he needs to feel that he has “passed” their evaluation. He is a ruthless person with himself also because Your inflexibility causes you to have perfectionist and controlling tendencies For this reason, he cannot tolerate an opinion that he perceives as negative because he finds it demoralizing.
If you identify with any of this, I clarify that we all have a little of this mentality and that we all also have a little of the growth mentality. Let me explain to you what the latter is like and then we will see how they influence our quality of life.
What is growth mindset?
A person with a growth mindset has a very great intrinsic desire to learn His mentality is agile and ductile. He understands that if he doesn’t know about something, he can learn it, and that the important thing is to encourage himself, play, and have fun with what he has to practice until he masters it.
This person love challenges and is committed to her personal growth. He listens carefully to the suggestions he receives because he understands that they are a great way to improve.
A person with a growth mindset will fall along the way of what they undertake, but will have the perseverance to get up and take it as a lesson on your journey The success of others serves as inspiration because he/she will see it as a sign that if others could do it, he/she can do it too.
I insist, we oscillate between one mentality and the other depending on the occasion. However, I would dare to say that our culture, our educational system, and society in general, do not see new challenges, nor the success of others, nor mistakes, as an opportunity.
That is why We grow up feeling like we’re not good enough When we face difficulties that we find difficult to solve, we doubt our ability and we can become very ruthless with ourselves. We demand ourselves, we punish ourselves, and we alienate ourselves in the making machine to prove our value.
To do?
It is because of all the above that it is important first detect what mentality is directing our life so that later we learn to relate to it in such a way that we are more present in our daily activities, and that we learn to treat ourselves well and live with more lucidity. This is the first step towards our well-being.
In the example I gave you about myself at the beginning, the first thing that comes to mind is a great desire to embrace the overwhelmed Self of that moment. He would whisper to me that no one is going to be disappointed if I am a few minutes late, that everything will be fine because I have done my best, and that if there is a setback I will overcome the situation with ingenuity as always. I would also suggest that I have to learn to set limits and prioritize because I cannot cover more than my human strength can do.
Ask yourself: Am I afraid of failing? What can happen if I do? Am I afraid of what others will say about me? How can I differentiate and learn from who tells me something constructive and who doesn’t? Do I need to control everything? What can I delegate?
Once you are aware of what mindset is directing your life, you can re-educate yourself to relate in a more tolerant way to yourself, with what you have to do, and with others. From a serene place you can always redirect your actions.
Give yourself more peace of mind, one action at a time, one day at a time, and you will see how you find joy in the little things in life, and in learning to navigate life’s challenges with more skill and with an eye toward your future. inside and not outside.
