When Our Partner Is An Emotional Psychopath: How To Detect It And Deal With It
I often receive patients in consultation with the problem of being in a relationship with someone with a tendency toward psychopathy emotional bond that causes symptoms of depression or anxiety.
In this article I will explain to you how to recognize a partner who hurts us more than he gives us and who is causing us great suffering.
There are different areas in which we can find that profile of people who pull on us, making us feel bad, demanding our attention and, above all, making us think at times that we are necessary in their life (but only until it suits them).
We must not forget that We can find these types of people in any field whether in work or emotions, and we must be clear that if we do not know how to manage this type of relationships and detect the problems associated with them, they will do us a lot of harm.
How to recognize the emotional psychopath? This question is interesting, given that on many occasions we will see them coming from afar and on other occasions we will find it difficult to blame them for this circumstance. We must be clear that we are facing people who are experts in liking us and connecting with us when it suits them Don’t forget that they always have some convenience points to make us like them. They start out being great lovers, we connect a lot in bed, they have great details…
To make it clear to you, I have written here a series of warning signs (red flags) with which to identify these aspects that define them.
1. He is unable to admit fault or acknowledge your point of view.
These people believe they are beings of light, they possess the absolute truth, and if it has gone wrong, they assume it was your fault What they are looking for is to make you feel bad to portray you as the cause of these problems and make you feel that you have to fix the situation. This vitiates the situation and makes you feel committed to him due to the feeling of guilt.
2. Gaslighting
This is a form of emotional abuse ; This is a phenomenon by which our other person makes us believe that we live wrong and that many of the things they have done and we blame them are lies, a failure of our perception or understanding, so in the end we suffer on their part. tremendous manipulation and self-esteem problems, which will make us depend even more on the other person.
3. It hurts you or others
Even if he doesn’t reject you completely, he constantly hurts you emotionally, taking measures to ensure that you are always there. You may even have other relationships behind the one you have with this person, although He likes to have you there for when things go wrong People with this profile always keep a touch of mystery; They hide their cell phone with you, they don’t follow you on social networks, etc.
He asks you to be his property alone, is a person who wants to have you for himself, and thus gain more control. This will also mean limiting your contact with others and therefore making you feel (falsely) that you need him/her.
How to deal with emotional psychopaths
Now that you know how to recognize a person with these characteristics, it is important to know how to deal with this type of subject. Therefore, below I am going to give you a series of tricks that I think will be useful.
1. Never ignore the warning signs
You have to pay attention to the warning signs (associated with your discomfort and a power asymmetry in the relationship) in order to avoid having a person at your side who is going to cause you a lot of suffering.
2. Don’t let him manipulate you
It is important to know that these people seek to take advantage of your emotional weaknesses in order to to be able to mold yourself in a way that they like They will try to keep you within reach and, the moment you rebel against them, they will unleash all their fury on you, making you feel bad. Why? Because they realize that they are losing someone to manipulate, and their ego will be damaged.
3. Don’t let it isolate you
Have you thought about when you are going to meet friends and it seems wrong? Does he propose any plan so that you don’t stay with them and thus your friendship ties deteriorate? Well, that’s when you notice that he is putting isolation into practice discreetly.
It is important to ask for professional help in these cases that cause us great distress. Sometimes we are so immersed in a relationship with someone that, Having created a great emotional dependency, it is difficult for us to overcome this situation and we need a little push.
My name is Javier Ares and I am a psychologist specializing in anxiety, depression and couples problems. In this case I have decided to talk to you about this issue, given that many patients who come to me with anxiety or depression have in common that they are suffering this type of abuse from their partners. Don’t hesitate to contact me to start working on you.
