In authenticity and true love, there will always be difficulties.
In general, Every relationship brings with it several stages based on the management of differences which must always be taken into account for the progress of a healthy relationship.
When faced with these kinds of experiences, do not stay crying over spilled milk; rather, fight for the love of your partner if it is really important to you and learn to live together while respecting the individuality of each person.
All relationships go through several stages: attraction, falling in love, disappointment, overcoming crises, coexistence, true love and finally companionship.
During these periods, several changes usually occur in the person, which They allow a better relationship and knowledge of both the couple and oneself
However, these stages are usually quite painful, because, although one is in continuous learning, the inner Self always comes to light and it is difficult to accept mistakes, both those of the partner and one’s own.
Therefore, in relationships we tend to evaluate the loved one constantly, even unconsciously. And we do it starting from an idea of ​​what “perfection” is, shaped according to psychological foundations that have been established since childhood. The same goes for the concepts of “the partner” and “the ideal” person you want to be with (an improved version of the partner).
From idealization to discomfort
But… What happens when this idealization is not what is expected, and reality is consciously observed? There it is when suffering, pain, disappointment, frustration and the crisis of every relationship arrive
True love and the desire for the continuity of the relationship appear when reality is accepted; However, it is important to love and accept your partner without letting Being, without stopping accepting yourself; without breaking our principles or harming your morals.
To do?
A relationship is two, and it is important to always add and never subtract; It is also important to grow, water and flower together; that is to say, transform yourself for the well-being of a healthy relationship
Many times, due to daily adversities and the differences that will always exist, important conflicts are generated; During moments of anger, each person will bring out the worst in themselves and will look for the culprit of the affectation, which will make them feel that there is no turning back and that the relationship should be ended. In these difficult situations you will think: Why cry over spilled milk? It’s better to finish!
But this is the daily life of couples. Relationships are like a roller coaster that will lead you to feel a variety of emotions and feelings that are often found looking for a better way out; That’s why we have to highlight the importance of mutual forgiveness with beneficial changes and assertive communication.
Just as spilled milk can no longer be collected, the same happens with relationships: the words said and the actions done cannot be reversed, because damage has already been caused, which only if there is genuine repentance and heartfelt forgiveness can it continue.
Trust, respect, empathy, teamwork, forgiveness, and above all love , will make emotions and feelings solid bases to continue. Not looking for the culprit, but for the root of the conflict; By accepting mistakes and committing to change, both people will learn how together they can combat one, two and many more problems that they will always encounter. The dialogue will give you a thousand reasons to continue growing and strengthening the relationship for love.
