Although most people are aware that being content and happy has a positive impact on our physical and mental health, anger and all the feelings associated with this experience is something natural in human beings. Not in vain, this is a universal emotion, present in human beings of all cultures and societies.
Now, some people seem to live constantly angry, with themselves or with the rest of the world, and that is where the problems begin.
This phenomenon can have multiple causes and is generally related to the tendency to link a short-term incentive system to the behaviors that fuel the emotion of anger. The result is that we get the feeling that we “like” being angry although this is actually a mirage: what we really do is channel a series of frustrations and discomforts with life, making anger eclipse all those thoughts that make us feel vulnerable.
How does this happen? Here we will see the most common causes and triggers that are usually behind this experience.
This form of discomfort is a complex and multi-causal phenomenon; By its very nature, it cannot be caused by a single cause, but by a combination of several factors.
Taking this into account, here we will review the causes that, when overlapping each other, may be behind constant anger in a person. Take them as the components of a thought circuit that leads you to have a predisposition to be angry by default.
The excessive perfectionism that some people have in their daily lives usually causes states of intense frustration when things do not go as they intended or expected. Which in turn generates a state of permanent vulnerability and hypersensitivity which makes the person overreact to any setback.
This permanent frustration, in the long run, can also translate into anger with other people and facilitate a permanent state of discomfort, tension and anger as a general rule when interacting with anyone.
In addition to that, this perfectionism also It may be due to the perception that many people may have of not having the life they believe they deserve that is, to an interference between what they thought their life would be and how it really is.
2. Food deficiencies
Poor diet, hunger felt on repeated occasions and food deficits in general They tend to cause irritability and discomfort in the affected person and that translates to all areas of their life, both personally and in interpersonal and social relationships.
This tendency to be angry and irritable generally happens when we follow a strict diet or if we eat poorly, with ultra-processed foods or those that do not provide the nutrients we need daily.
3. Lack of sleep
As with diet, lack of sleep can often generate altered states in which the person reacts more irritably to any stimulus in their environment and to any conversation they have with other people.
With the aim of being calmer, rested and happy, We must try to sleep the necessary hours daily so that our body and brain get enough rest and regain energy for tomorrow.
Scientific research for several years has shown that widespread drug use can cause a series of behavioral and emotional changes in the person, as well as a negative influence on their body.
Repeated consumption of some drugs can generate irritability in the user, as well as a permanent bad mood, tendency towards conflict and even aggression in the most serious cases.
5. Unwanted loneliness
Unwanted loneliness is also the cause of great discomfort in the person who suffers from it, especially if this loneliness is interpreted as something unfair, which the rest of the person does not suffer.
Medical science has shown that Generalized loneliness can cause increased irritability in the person as well as bad mood, habitual anger and a tendency to generate interpersonal conflicts.
6. Family or relationship conflicts
Family or relationship conflicts and in general difficulties in relating cause many people to a state of permanent anger both with themselves and with the rest of the people around them.
To overcome our states of intense anger, it is recommended train our social skills and our ability to interact and relate to the people around us whether with friends, with families or with our partners.
7. Excess work stress
Excessive work stress and some disorders associated with excessive work, such as burnout worker syndrome They can also be causes that explain why a person is angry all day.
Again, the lack of rest and an excessive work pace can destabilize the person’s mental health and cause them to lean towards very maladaptive social relationship modalities based on permanent conflict and anger.
You may be interested: “Work stress: causes, and how to combat it”
8. Lack of emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence is the set of capabilities, tools and strategies that, once applied, allow us to recognize our own feelings and also those of others, as well as function successfully in contexts of social interaction.
emotional intelligence It is also one of the most necessary social skills to relate correctly to our environment, and a deficit in it can cause some people to always have conflicts with other people or to be continually angry.
9. Lack of social skills
As indicated, social skills are very necessary to maintain a full and satisfying social life, as well as to communicate correctly with the people around us.
These types of social skills are acquired during childhood and adolescence, and are of great help to interact normally with other human beings. Likewise, a lack or deficit of these skills can also be the cause of permanent anger on the part of some people.
Some of the most necessary social skills are: assertiveness, active listening, persuasiveness, control of non-verbal language and the ability to set goals.
To do?
Given the fact of being angry almost without interruption and even without knowing how to identify a specific cause that explains it, The most effective and recommended solution is to go to psychotherapy. With the help of a psychology professional you will have a completely personalized emotional management training program adapted to your needs.
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