There are times in our lives where our body shuts down and remains silent on a sexual level for a season.
Both men and women go through some moments where sexual silences appear and our body doesn’t want to have sex with other people. Our desire is affected by these silences, since we do not feel like having relationships nor do we think about them.
There are many reasons why our body rejects sexual relations, among them, the main one is duel for losing a person we loved. It doesn’t have to be because he or she has died, it can also happen when a relationship has broken down and we find ourselves in a low emotional moment. In these situations, our desire is missing in action and sexual fulfillment is in limbo.
Sexual silences usually upset us, even if we know what happened and why it is happening, we find ourselves confused and do not understand how it can affect us in this way. Likewise, it is not necessary that we have lost a partner or a romantic relationship, we can be single and find ourselves in this situation equally. It is only necesary live a shocking situation for us and trigger sexual silence.
The difficulty usually comes when the person is in a relationship, as uncomfortable situations arise that generate tension between the couple and fights, revolts and even feelings of guilt for not giving your all or unintentionally causing intimate problems in the relationship. alters
The reality is that behind a physical situation like this lies an emotional issue, which should be treated in therapy to be able to overcome it, understand how our body is warning us that we are not well emotionally and work to be able to manage those emotions that we are retaining or not. We know how to control.
How to manage it with your partner?
It is likely that as a result of this situation the couple is resentful, since Sex is one of the pillars of stability in a relationship. But a relationship is not limited to just that. The unsafety , anger or even the feeling of emptiness in the couple will be evident, but we should not get upset. Our body needs time and listen to ourselves so that we can understand what is happening and respect or assist each other if we need it. The main thing is to be understanding with ourselves and talk to our partner about how we are so that they can understand what is happening to us. Communication is very important in our relationship and if we can explain that this is normal, that it has nothing to do with that person but that we need our time to manage it, we will save ourselves many fights and it will make the couple a stronger bond.
Look for your answers, listen to yourself and let them help you to be able to repair what has hurt you and is causing you such pain and inner insecurity. Remember that this is about you, not about others, and being nervous about what they will think, say, or even whether the relationship will break down because of this is not your main concern. That’s what communication is for, as we have explained to you.
