A common question in couples therapies and in Sexology consultations that I encounter in my daily life is what habits a couple should maintain for a happy relationship.
A common question in couples therapies and in Sexology consultations that I encounter every day is what habits a couple should maintain to maintain a happy relationship. Here I share with you some of my reflections on what makes a couple better, or happy, or at least gives it a better chance of working. It must be clear that there are no magical secrets, because the human being always has the ability to choose and therefore to make a decision that is not rational, but emotional, and that there are small things that accumulated can cause a huge problem, such as a million grains of sand end up creating a beach.
Have common spaces where you can meet, where you can share. In this sense it could be the house, the children, the family, even the job. It does not have to be a physical space, but rather one in which a common path is shared.
That we have common tastes or interests that we can share. We must be clear that if we already have very different tastes from the start, it is difficult for this to change for the better in the future, nor for it to help the couple, but rather it will quickly deteriorate the couple.
When a couple begins their journey, they must have a project to work with, which does not mean that it cannot be modified later, but it must exist from the outset: whether or not to have children, where to live, where we want to go. , or what our priorities are in life.
An argument should never be taken as a battle within the couple, but as an opportunity to improve, to change, to modify those things that do not work. Always be clear that we play on the same team, and that it is under that idea where we have to work.
Expecting something bad from our partner would be the most absurd thing we can do, since we are supposed to trust that person, and therefore we should look for positive things in them. If we cannot look at things positively, if we cannot expect good things from the relationship, the best thing would be to break it off and go our separate ways.
When couples have children, they often leave their life as a couple aside or as secondary. Stopping being lovers, stopping going out, sharing or having space will make a couple end up breaking up. A couple that wants to remain a couple always has to not forget that they are dating first and then everything else.
When there is a problem we have to try to solve it as soon as possible, because if we don’t do it that way and let it fester, for example without talking for days as happens in some couples, the only thing that can be achieved is for each step to be a problem. little more difficult to solve.
A basic pillar of a couple’s life is that there is good communication between its members, and not only talking about day-to-day things, but talking about everything we feel, what worries us and needs.
We think that saying things one way or another does not matter because this will not affect the couple, but if we are leaving marks, we are leaving wounds every time we do not take care of them, and when these marks accumulate, they end up creating a groove. first and then a chasm between the members of the couple.
If you do not believe that your partner is the best for you, the question you should ask yourself is why you are with him, because perhaps the one who will be the best will be out in the world waiting for you who will also be that ideal partner for him. Staying with what we don’t want is the beginning of guaranteed failure.
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PsychologyFor. (2024). 10 Habits to Create a Happy Couple. https://psychologyfor.com/10-habits-to-create-a-happy-couple/
