What is self-esteem? Some say that it is the fact that we have to feel like the best, others say that it is something negative, since they feel terrible when they think about it, and others say that it is a balance between how we value ourselves based on how others value us. the rest.
For me, self-esteem is a relationship of friendship with ourselves in which we accept our limits to be able to be who we are without being afraid of what people will say, which is why it has a great relationship with security.
I would also say that self-esteem is empathy with ourselves, understanding that we are that child who one day grew up and that we have to accept and help, but be careful, never overprotect.
Surely you have many times experienced uncomfortable situations that have made you uncomfortable. These situations often occur because of how the actions of others affect us, but in many others they are due to how you have interpreted the stimuli that come to you from outside
Focus on it for a moment and think about the image you have of yourself and above all ask yourself how others see you. If the answer to this has to do with a negative view of who you are, it would be good for you to rethink your self-esteem and read the advice that I am going to give you below.
As you see I have prepared a series of tricks or tips that can be useful to put healthy self-esteem into practice I would like you to take them seriously so I can practice them. Without further ado I leave you with them, I hope they are useful to you.
1. Understand the other knowing that we may not be understood
Many times we understand others, but other times they will contradict us. This does not mean that our opinion is worse, simply that we are putting ourselves below the opinion of others, although in reality ours is at the same level. Please: don’t underestimate your opinion!
2. Know how to be with ourselves:
Are you alone and feel abandoned? Can’t you find your reason for being? Well, this is something that means that you may have low self-esteem. To be happy being with yourself, I recommend learn new hobbies, meet people, or make different plans
3. Know how to say no
It’s important not to be forced to say yes to everything. With this you will know that you have your rights and can take control of your life. Saying that you do not affirm your position and also choose so you will feel like you decide for yourself.
4. Be real
And I’m not talking about saying things without any type of filter, I’m simply talking to you about do things and decide based on your taste I want that at every moment of the day, when you are with your friends, you can say your opinion without problems or fear of causing discomfort, always starting from education, obviously.
Respect the other person, but above all, respect yourself. I want you to get up in the morning, look in the mirror, and tell yourself that You are going to treat yourself well and you are going to be patient with yourself The message we send to each other is important; In the end, our voice is the one we hear the most throughout the day.
6. Have freedom and give freedom
And this has to do with your selfishness. You have to be aware that The people around you have the right to choose their plans and you should have it too It is important to see how we often feel bad if our partner makes a different plan or our friend decides to take the liberty of disconnecting from the phone for a few days. They are within his rights, and you have to accept it.
7. Listen
Have you ever tried listening to the other person without speaking until they shut up? If you haven’t tried it, what are you waiting for? Many times we carry out a dialogue focused on ourselves that does not generate anything positive for us Stop looking at your navel and listen to others a little more, but of course without forgetting about yourself.
8. Take care of our energy
We have little, and we have to be safe from energy vampires or toxic people Never meet someone you don’t feel like doing something.
9. Not wanting to change the other and accept it
Not everyone is going to like you, so you can’t change them. It is important that you simply choose who to open up to and who you can be friends with or not.
10. Be responsible, do not blame or punish ourselves for what happens
Stop thinking that you are to blame for everything or doing second readings like my in-laws don’t like me when you don’t even know it. There you are responsible for talking to them and asking them how they feel and if what you did that day made them feel bad.
Learning to relate better to yourself
A very good tip is that Always choose any action that involves positive feelings and that will raise your self-esteem upwards
Simply think that you have to put the positive to attract the positive and above all trust in good actions. But be careful: it is no use thinking that you are going to do something positive and then receive something; It is a mistake, that is called doing something in exchange for X and it will only bring you incomprehension, If you do something, don’t do it because you expect nothing in return and this way you can have greater self-realization
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I’m Emily Williams Jones, a psychologist specializing in mental health with a focus on cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness. With a Ph.D. in psychology, my career has spanned research, clinical practice and private counseling. I’m dedicated to helping individuals overcome anxiety, depression and trauma by offering a personalized, evidence-based approach that combines the latest research with compassionate care.
