9 Keys To Know If Your Partner Is Unfaithful And Cheating On You
Being faithful to your partner is, without a doubt, one of the basic pillars of a relationship. When trust is lost due to infidelity, it is difficult to get back on track and make the relationship work
Now, complicated is not the same as impossible, which is why some couples overcome this bump and manage to regain stability again.
Scientific studies show that infidelities are on the rise, especially in the case of women. According to a recent article in El Confidencial, one in three women cheat on their partner This Spanish newspaper, with this news, echoed a study carried out by the French Institute of Public Opinion (IFOP).
The research included a sample of 3,406 subjects, who were evaluated based on their motivations, their disposition and the resistance they imposed regarding adultery. And the numbers do not stop growing in terms of female infidelity. In 1970, only 10% of women claimed to have been unfaithful; in 2001, 24%, and in 2016, 33% In the case of men, the percentage of infidelity is similar to the latter, although the rate of infidelity has not changed so much in recent decades.
Summer, time of infidelities
As you can see, infidelity is increasing, but we are not equally unfaithful at all times of the year. A survey carried out by the portal Second Lives, specialized in finding partners for infidelities, has also been responsible for demonstrating the relationship between summer and extramarital affairs.
The results showed that during this time of year the search for lovers increases by 40%. The survey included 92% of the page’s users, and They stated that in the summer they have more time and feel freer to commit infidelity
Likewise, in an article published in Infobae, psychologist Adriana Guraieb says that: “on vacation there is more time, the bodies are more visible in the sun and alcohol can help people talk about more infidelities. However, alcohol is not a reason for infidelity, but rather it is a facilitator in the sense that it disinhibits and encourages those sexual desires that are hidden to come out.”
Having said that, What causes infidelities? Well, there are many reasons that can lead a couple to be unfaithful. Three of the most important are these:
How to know if your partner is cheating on you
Infidelities in relationships are common. However, they do not always end up knowing Detecting an unfaithful partner is complicated, unless the person committing adultery leaves very obvious clues or is caught at that moment and cannot deny it. In fact, most infidelity goes unnoticed or is never proven, because the rules of the game tend to favor those who cheat.
But it is possible to know a series of signs that could indicate that something is happening outside the relationship. When I say “something can happen” I mean that these keys are not 100% infallible, and the behaviors that your partner shows may be due to other reasons, which should not be ruled out. So to be as objective as possible It is necessary to make a global assessment taking into account what the person is like and what the situation is and of course, do not accuse anyone if there is no reliable evidence that fidelity is occurring.
These are the keys that could indicate that infidelity is taking place.
1. Visible signs
These types of signs are the ones that help the most when it comes to detecting cases of infidelity, and they have to do with physical evidence that we find either on our partner’s clothes, or in the home and, above all, in the living area. bedroom.
It turns out that you are doing the laundry and your partner’s shirt and it gives off a strong smell of women’s perfume ; Your partner comes home and has a lipstick stain on his neck or comes home from work with his hair disheveled. These can be telltale signs that something may have happened.
However, A single occasion is not enough to doubt someone It would be different if this happens repeatedly. Therefore, these types of experiences should be taken as a reason to have a conversation about what happened and, in it, analyze the ease with which the other person provides a convincing explanation without getting very nervous and/or falling into inconsistencies.
2. Change of habits
You know your partner perfectly because you have lived together for many years. But he has been behaving strangely for a few months now and has adopted habits he didn’t have before, and that they are not due to a change of job. For example, he checks his smartphone every day before going to bed and spends hours hooked on to the device when he leaves work. Furthermore, when you ask him who he talks to so much, he avoids answering you, appears tense and hides the conversations from you.
3. You don’t know what the answer is or your stories don’t match
Not only does he appear tense/hide conversations, but when you ask him a question, such as, “what did you do after work?” You don’t know what to answer or your explanations are not spontaneous enough You need to stop for a few seconds to weigh an answer, and this one isn’t too detailed.
4. He gets defensive
And of course, you are surprised by his behavior, so you ask him something to clarify it for you. Instead of acting calmly, knowing that he has nothing to hide, it turns out that he gets angry and in the end avoids answering you. There’s no reason to be like this, unless you’re hiding something…
Now, keep in mind that if from the beginning you let him understand that you suspect infidelity without having objective reasons to reach that conclusion, it is normal for him to become defensive; Another thing is for him to adopt a hostile attitude without you having suggested that he has done something wrong.
5. Change in routine in your free time
Not only does it change habits and ways of acting, but it your routine seems to have changed radically in a very short time (without this being habitual for your partner). Now he has new hobbies, new interests, and lo and behold, he doesn’t include you in almost any of his activities. This may also be a sign that you are trying to develop an attractive profile for another person whom you are trying to seduce or keep by your side in a sense of romantic love.
Unfaithful people often use work as an excuse If before he used to work 8 hours a day, now he always leaves work later, he even has to go on a trip with the company and now he also works on Saturdays… These are some indicators that can make you suspicious of his true intentions.
7. Wants to go everywhere alone
Your relationship may not be at its best, but he has never behaved in a way that avoided your presence in many situations. Now he prefers to be alone in the room or go anywhere alone. Obviously everyone needs their space, but this is not the reason for their attitude
8. Pays excessive attention to your physical appearance
He pays a lot of attention to his physical appearance, dresses better, uses after shave every day and even returns to the gym despite forgetting about it. He behaves the same as when he started the relationship with you, but over time he seemed to have forgotten This strange behavior may mean that you are trying to impress someone.
9. Your sexual desire levels have dropped rapidly
Taking into account that as we mature, sexual desire tends to decrease, what is unusual is that the desire to have sexual relations decreases very quickly, in a matter of days or weeks. This may be because that desire is satisfied with another person since if we do not do something to generate sexual desire at the moment, it does not usually “adapt” to the number of sexual encounters to which we are exposed.
Of course, this can also be caused by health disorders: excess stress at work, malnutrition, lack of sleep, drug use… We should not fall into the trap of analyzing these “symptoms” individually, looking away from your partner’s overall behavior.
