Everything You Need To Know About Sexual Fantasies
Fantasizing is not an activity exclusive to children and adults who look like children. Fortunately, it is a capacity that all human beings have and that we can use throughout our lives.
Fantasizing is simple: Broadly speaking, you just have to let your imagination run wild Thus, by imagining other realities, we can live experiences of all kinds. Of course, in the mind.
On a sexual level, in a private and personal way, we may be able to let ourselves be carried away by our erotic thoughts and intertwine mind, body and emotions, being able to live tremendously pleasurable experiences, and even trigger a sexual response.
You just have to find and press the fantasies ON button.
When do we start fantasizing? What are sexual fantasies fueled by, and how do they evolve?
According to the sex therapist Wendy Maltz in his book “The intimate world of female sexual fantasies”women begin to fantasize in childhood, with more romantic or sensual ideas, evolving over time to more sexual ideas.
The development of fantasies seems to be closely related to sexual development, and in turn, to the experiences that are lived, the culture and the information that is collected regarding sexuality throughout life.
It is important, therefore, to fill the drawer of our fantasies with everything that stimulates us. We must look for sources of inspiration that place the person’s senses right at the starting point of the path of the erotic always willing to seek pleasure.
This question is complicated if one assumes that in the mind anything goes: strictly speaking, there are all kinds of fantasies. The theme is as varied as the tastes of each person are different. However, there is a classification that is interesting to mention, since it can provide deeper knowledge about one’s own sexuality.
As Maltz explains, Sexual fantasies can be classified into fictional fantasies and non-fictional fantasies
Fictional fantasies develop like a real story, with characters and relationships between them. The roles of the protagonist generally vary from dominance, where power and control are the characteristic elements, to a sweet and beautiful role of loved one, where affection, intimacy or spiritual attraction are predominant. But there can also be victim roles, where fear or even violence appear; of savage, this being understood as a free role, without power or control; of an object of desire, or simply, of voyeur.
On the other hand, there are unfictional fantasies. These fantasies are totally linked to the sensory capabilities that we humans have. They are not stories like the previous ones, but rather they are visual, auditory, tactile stimuli, etc. those that give us pleasure when we imagine them in our minds.
What are your fantasies like? Do you make real movies in your head or are your senses the ones that take you to paradises of pleasure?
In any case, whatever the type of fantasies are, The most important thing is to give yourself permission to fantasize, free of guilt, censure, shame or fear you
The meaning of fantasies has a relative importance, if we start from the idea that there is no bad sexual fantasy as long as it works. If the fantasy is capable of activating you, of suggesting to you, of making you feel pleasure, that fantasy works. Use it a lot!
However, on certain occasions fantasies can be a cause for concern or can make the person’s intimacy difficult, in which case they become disturbing or intrusive fantasies, or as Wendy Maltz also calls them,cheating fantasies .
This type of fantasies can occur when the fantasy itself is in contradiction with the person’s reality or when the fantasy causes the person who is living it to lose their sense of control, or they can also be those that maintain or reinforce negative behaviors or even dangerous.
In these cases, It is good and reassuring to know that fantasies can be shaped to suit the consumer Therefore, you can discard that fantasy and look for another one. Wendy Maltz carries out guided explorations of fantasies in workshops or in therapy and in her book she explains how she does it, recounting some cases.
What advantages do sexual fantasies have?
1. The mind is the most important engine of sexual activation Using the potential that the ability to fantasize gives us can help enrich and enjoy our sexual life more, since it acts directly to increase sexual desire. By fantasizing, you can live experiences that you may not be able to or want to live in real life, but that, experienced in the mind, bring enormous pleasure.
2. They are a source of improved self-esteem and of personal attractiveness Fantasies generally allow you to focus on the finer details. sexybeing able to avoid criticism from others and self-criticism.
3. They help to rehearse possible future practices or can serve to preserve pleasant past memories or to overcome some limitations of the present
4. Fantasies They are personal creations and as such, they can be modified as desired, adapting them to personal tastes and needs.
5. It is a simple, fun, creative technique that is available to everyone andIt’s free! (an important detail in these times when everything seems to have a price).
6. The more you practice fantasizing, It is easier to trigger well-being pleasure and even sexual response.
There are too many good things provided by this practice not to consider fantasizing.
