Reinventing Intimacy: How To Overcome Sexual Difficulties In Young Men
We are going to talk about the difficulties of many men of different ages (including very young ages) who have problems having sexual encounters with their partners. There has been a lot of talk about this and many medications and placebos have been sold to help resolve these situations, which did not work. Today we are going to allow ourselves a new approach with which it was possible to achieve many solutions to this distressing situation.
It is a phenomenon that very recently began to grow at a very high speed. The clients are usually around 30 years old, and the symptoms they experience are that they cannot get or maintain an erection with their partner, wife or an occasional lover.
Many of the causes reviewed in the traditional literature are: stress, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, conflicts in the relationship, lack of communication or lack of emotional intimacy, alcohol abuse, use or consumption of recreational drugs or tobacco consumption, diseases such as diabetes, heart disease, hypertension, obesity and hormonal disorders, injuries to the pelvic area or surgeries in that area, lack of regular physical exercise, an unhealthy diet and lack of sleep. However, These causes do not explain the development and extension of the phenomenon in recent years.
Social, work or academic pressures can cause high levels of stress and anxiety, which in turn can affect a young man’s ability to maintain an erection.
Unrealistic Expectations
Idealized representations of sex in the media and popular culture can create unrealistic expectations about sexual performance which can lead to anxiety and low self-esteem.
Social pressure
Sometimes social pressure to perform sexually or meet certain standards can lead to anxiety, which can affect sexual performance.
Relationship Problems
Difficulties in the relationship, such as Lack of communication, conflict, or lack of emotional connection can have a negative impact on erectile function.
Deficient Sexual Education
The lack of adequate sexual education can result in ignorance about the body, sexuality and the way sexual arousal works, which can affect sexual response.
The New Hypotheses That Are Helping Us Solve
Today, we know that there are more influencing factors, especially:
Difficulty in Taking Place in the Relationship
Sometimes it can be difficult to find our place in a relationship or feel comfortable taking up space. It is important to be yourself, to be happy and proud of being so, without constantly thinking that we must be what our partner would like or might need. This topic almost requires a true “research” to accompany our consultant on this path.
It is important to convey self-confidence and the concept of not feeling guilty for talking about your own needs or desires. A fundamental tool is to strengthen the couple’s communication mechanisms to be able to express what each one feels and needs.
Expansion of the Concept of Sexuality
It is important to consider the possibility of re-educating our client in reviewing and questioning the idea that having sex is only penetration. Sexuality is broad and diverse, and exploring different forms of intimacy can be beneficial for a couple.
Ways to Start Solving
But how can I improve my sex life?
Explore the World of Eroticism
Eroticism is within reach in various expressions of culture: cinema, literature, theater and music. It is important to learn to enjoy them and develop a certain capacity for erotic play as a fundamental way to resolve this difficulty.
Generate Endorphins
There are few ways to generate endorphins, and we know that this “product” that we can generate can give us enough energy to face and solve the difficulty. Psychological therapy should suggest to clients different ways to generate this energy.
Support the Consultant in Reducing Stress and Anxiety
We must consider various strategies to overcome what is happening. Some strategies include: physical exercise, relaxation techniques, establishing limits and promoting excellent communication in the relationship.
Realized Experiences
I have had the opportunity to attend sessions to many men, as well as couples who brought this difficulty to the consultation. Men were not being able to have satisfactory relationships and, obviously, women were not happy with what was happening either. The results were excellent in more than 90% of the people treated.
