When you realize that the hell you are in (like the one I detailed in a previous article) is not what you want and you start to distance yourself and walk away, There are several things you could do to recover those resources and strengths that we all have ; that which allows us to move forward and rise from the well in which we are immersed, recovering with more strength and firmness all our potential, our internal power.
Which will make it easier for us, finally, to rise from the ashes and reinvent ourselves.
These are some of the elements that can help us gain greater autonomy:
1. Return to your origins
You will realize how the people who love you and that at some point you had left behind, your parents, siblings, friends… are expectant, waiting, eager to offer you a space, to be able to help you and provide that support that allows you to move forward. Don’t be afraid to knock on their door, because they are waiting for you to take that step.
2. Take walks in the mountains or in the countryside
Nature has a powerful stress-reducing effect, calms the nervous system, restores attention …its contact has a moderating effect, it allows us to feel deeply within ourselves and enter a state of peace, which at this moment is what you truly need.
3. Tell someone important to you about your experiences
Do not deny what you have experienced, do not minimize the damage suffered This will allow you to get rid of that burden and feel complicity with the other again. Furthermore, opening your heart and sharing your experiences and the pain that some of them have generated in you will make it easier for you to look at yourself in a sweeter, subtler and kinder mirror with yourself, and put each scene in its place, clean and heal memories and experiences. .
4. Seek professional help
So that you can understand everything you have experienced, what led you to that situation and what should you do and know about yourself to avoid repeating it? In this way you will be able to restore yourself and release the accumulated suffering, the feeling of loss due to broken illusions, guilt, anger, frustration… It is also necessary that you take responsibility for your life and your decisions, with this I I mean that you are the owner of yourself, of the paths you travel, of how you relate to the environment, how you react to the events that happen to you…
Assume the consequences that arise from them, this will allow you to better manage your life and your experiences, it will give you power over yourself. And, if there is something in your way of acting that you don’t like or that causes you stress or confusion: work on it, learn new ways, modify it.
5. Learn to meditate
For example with Mindfulness, Focusing, Chi Kung (or any other meditation technique that you feel comfortable with). It will help you keep intrusive and negative thoughts that arise uncontrollably at bay. Practicing full presence will make it easier for you to be in the here and now, not to project excessively into the future, nor to get stuck in memories of the past. These tools promote states of serene calm and help you enjoy the present moment, allowing you to see each moment in all its splendor.
Things that you like to do and that give you great satisfaction Paint, dance, write, sing…. The arts have the honor and particularity of allowing us to explore the emotional world and transform it almost without realizing it!
7. Give yourself a gift
Get a massage, go to a spa, buy yourself something you like …. How long has it been since you dedicated a moment to yourself? How long has it been since you took care of yourself, pampered yourself? Treat yourself!
8. Allow yourself a tribute
You have taken a very important step with powerful implications for you and your near future. You should allow yourself to celebrate properly to turn the page completely ; Rituals have the ability to transmit the importance and transform acts, they elevate them, give them connotations of reality and strength. Go out to dinner somewhere you like, or consider a special trip, if possible with friends, so that you can once again feel the wonder of sharing life and experiences with others. So you can close the circle, seal that stage and open another with all the honors!
