How To Overcome The Fear Of Rebuilding Your Life Without Your Ex-partner
How long has it been since you experienced your breakup? Has it been weeks, months, years perhaps? And in all this time, even though what you want most is to get over that separation, you still feel pain, do you still remember the good times and still can’t imagine being happy again without your ex?
If so, you should know that part of everything you feel is a common reaction and is part of the process of overcoming a separation. Yes, having all those negative emotions and thoughts is common, however, you cannot allow yourself to stagnate and deny yourself. the opportunity to build a new life without your ex
Overcome the fear of rebuilding your life without your ex-partner
The experience of a breakup is the end of a stage of your life, but it is also, whether you want it or not, the beginning of a new one.
At the end of the day, life goes on, your obligations are still present and you surely have entire decades to live. Therefore, stagnating cannot be an option You have the power to rebuild your life after a separation and with this article I want to motivate you to do so.
Today I want to talk exclusively about one of the biggest barriers that hinder the process of overcoming a breakup: the fear of rebuilding your life without your ex. Let’s understand the problem from the beginning.
You started a romantic relationship and with that person you lived various experiences that united you as a couple. You walked together hand in hand, you traveled, you laughed, you lived in intimacy, etc. You both integrated into each other’s social groups, interacting with each other’s friends and family, and even made future plans. Thus, little by little, during the entire time that you remained in that love relationship, you built a lifestyle with your ex.
But now, the romantic relationship is over and you have to face the lifestyle you built with your ex; The difference is that now you have to live it without his help. Now you must attend meetings alone and the first few times you will have to clarify that your ex will not be present again. You will want to keep your distance from certain friends who are related to your ex and of course, There will be certain daily activities that will remind you of the absence of your that person you loved
That is, your life is framed by a lifestyle tied to your ex and, the longer you stay that way, the more difficult it will be for you to overcome the separation.
What’s stopping you from rebuilding your life without your ex?
You are reading this article because you want to get over the breakup you experienced, but you don’t know how to do it or you feel like you won’t be able to achieve it. But think carefully, what is preventing you from rebuilding your life without the shadow of your ex. Is it perhaps the pain you feel when you think that all your dreams have vanished? Maybe it’s because everything around you reminds you of your ex? Or perhaps, do you feel that you depend on the presence of your ex to get ahead?
Any of these reasons It will generate an immense fear of facing the world without your ex-partner However, most of these fears are generated by your own mental barriers and can be successfully faced.
To achieve this you must start by being willing to do it and then change your mental focus to affirm that you can rebuild your life without your ex. Think, for example, about your dreams. Did you perhaps dream of taking a trip? If so, you should understand that you can still do it, regardless of your ex’s absence. Plan the fulfillment of this dream considering that it will not be as you planned with your ex, it will simply be different.
Look around you and identify everything that reminds you of your ex and eliminate everything that is not essential You don’t need to keep the photographs and memories. You also do not need to maintain the same decoration and layout of your home. So don’t be afraid and free yourself from everything that stormily reminds you of your ex’s absence.
Maybe your problem is that you feel that you are entirely dependent on your ex, because if so, you must be sure that you are capable of living without your ex. You may not know how many things work, but today you live surrounded by information and you can always learn how to do it yourself. And even if you feel like you need help, you need to look beyond the dependency you have on your ex, and ask for support from your family and friends.
You have the power to overcome the breakup you experienced and to rebuild your life. Believing in yourself is the first step to achieve it
Leaving your comfort zone is part of the way to overcome separation
Yes, experiencing an improvement is an extremely painful situation and implies a great restructuring in your life. That is why you must leave your comfort zone without letting discomfort stop you.
There will be moments of pain and you will experience varied reactions to the sadness caused by the absence of your ex. All of this is common and normal. Your emotions have a special value in this process and you must give yourself a moment to experience the grief and sadness of your separation and with it, mark the end of one stage and the beginning of the next.
Yes, there is a next stage after what you experienced with your ex and it is that process that you must embark on.
Now that the relationship is over, it’s time to decide to build a new life without the shadow of your ex. It is time to build a new lifestyle that favors the process of overcoming the breakup you experienced. How to do it? Below you find 2 ideas to achieve this.
1. Discover
Write a list of at least 5 activities that you would like to do in the next 3 months. Even better if these activities are new to you, in this way, they will encourage your brain to concentrate more on using your abilities and this, in turn, will boost your self-esteem
Surround yourself with people and seek to discover something new about each of them, be interested in their lives and ask questions. Consider that at this moment your ex is very present in your thoughts and that, therefore, it is better if the conversation is focused and directed by other people.
Discover what characteristics you admire in other people and seek to obtain them too. To do it, Include reminders in your agenda about the attitude you want to have and about the description of yourself that you want to define you from now on.
2. Take action, one step at a time
Understand that overcoming the breakup you experienced is a process, it is not something that will happen overnight. It will begin with the decision to actually overcome it, it will continue with every activity you do to achieve it and it will culminate with the day when you accept the learnings of the past and feel satisfied with the life you lead. And since it’s a process, you should start with one step at a time.
Every day is a new opportunity to leave the past behind and focus on your present. Every day you have the option of choose new activities to get involved in, new topics to talk about and new people to meet. And everything happens gradually with each decision you make. So ask yourself: what is stopping you from focusing on rebuilding your life?
Life goes on
Whether or not you overcome the fear of building a life without your ex, life moves on quickly.
Surely you have already realized that, even on those days when you felt like you couldn’t get out of your bed, the obligations were still present. Even though you didn’t have the head to think about anything, the routine continued as always, responsibilities were maintained and time passed.
But be careful, there is a big difference between time passing and you still stuck in the breakup you experienced, or time passing and every day you do something more to get over your ex and recover your inner peace. Life goes on and you You have the power to decide how much of your present life you will dedicate to a past relationship
Now, I understand that you are not used to going out and presenting yourself to the world. I understand if you are afraid because you got used to doing everything with the help of your ex. I can imagine that you have defeatist thoughts before trying it and that you fall into the temptation of boycotting your goal of overcoming it. But You must know that you are the only builder of all those barriers mental and that, therefore, you are also the only one who has the power to tear them down. The decision is in your hands.
Do you want to get over the breakup you experienced? So, decide to do it and focus your activities, thoughts and attitudes on the fact that it is possible to achieve it.
