Living in a cloud and falling precipitously hurts, but even more so when we see that the other person finds another person in a short time.
Breakups in a relationship can be very hard for both parties. We usually think that the person who leaves the other will have it easier since they have had time to think about it, but sometimes leaving a relationship does not mean stopping loving, but knowing that the two people are not looking for the same thing.
A separation brings feelings such as sadness, anxiety and even despise himself. These emotions appear in our lives like a tsunami that destroys us strongly. Until we learn to accept the situation and see the light at the end of a tunnel of heartbreak. It is then when we begin to walk for ourselves, to think again for ourselves until we are happy again. But what happens when in that great moment of happiness you find out that the other person is already with someone else?
A couple of months ago I saw a photo in which he was hugging a girl, and now I saw that he is with her. It makes me very angry. Not because I want to be with him, but because I have not yet rebuilt my life with another person and I am outraged that he has.
Lara feels angry, although she is aware that she would not return to her ex-partner and that they are much better apart, seeing that he is already with another person after just a few months makes her angry.
There may be multiple reasons why you have decided to be with another person, but surely if you are already with another person it may be because:
He doesn’t know how to be alone : The fear of being alone and not being able to share things with someone causes tension and anxiety. He seeks happiness through another person and not his own, managing to cover up his feelings and fears of loneliness.
It’s a patch : There are many people who believe that they need to meet another person to forget the previous one, and they use it as a patch to get over it.
I already had feelings for her: It is very likely that when I was with you I already knew this person and had feelings for them or that a crush arose after the breakup.
He wants to make you jealous : He doesn’t know how to talk to you again or resume the relationship and he tries to make you jealous so that you are the one who does it.
Feeling anger is normal, you are in a moment of transition after a relationship and you still need to feel totally strong with yourself. Right now, changes are emerging in your life and you need to organize them to know where you want to go and where you want to place your ex-partner in your life.
To begin with, accepting that he is with another person, for whatever reason, will be essential for you to stop attaching yourself to him:
Looks are deceiving : As we said before, just because he is with another person does not mean that he loves him more, or that he is better than you or that he is more in love than he was with you. There are a thousand and one reasons why you may have decided to turn the page so quickly and they don’t have to be positive.
Express your feelings : Feeling anger, sadness or even jealousy may not be to your liking, but keeping it inside yourself doesn’t benefit you at all either. Allow yourself to talk about it with your friends and confidants so you can get rid of all the pain it has caused you and feel more emotionally free.
Accept your feelings : Allow yourself to feel, without overflowing. It is logical that imagining the person who has shared years of their life with you with another person hurts you.
Remember that blaming him for trying to move on is not positive for you or him and will only complicate things more. Focus on yourself, on accepting without having to play the role of victim.
