A Possibility To Be Happier: Communion With Your Body
Have you ever become aware of how your dog looks at you? He does not judge your volume, your height, your skin color, your curls or the straightness of your hair, your wrinkles, your belly, your cellulite or any other aspect that you observe and that you sometimes consider incorrect or inadequate, or even Have you ever tried to hide?
Most of us are taught from childhood that the body is less than the spirit, less than the mind or other qualities of the being; However, it is with the body that we live in this reality.
On the other hand, they promote the idea that the body should look perfect, and these types of messages lead us to disconnect with our bodies, to the demand for diets and exercises, surgeries or treatments to look the way we are “supposed to.” that should be seen.
In the end, we discover that all these efforts are not the key to happiness, and that on the contrary, promote criticism and personal rejection, causing disconnection, low self-esteem and, to a large extent, anxiety states that can trigger more serious disorders such as depression, or eating disorders such as bulimia and anorexia; without mentioning, of course, all the physiological effects that come with chemical alterations in the body caused by stress, anxiety or depression.
Has judging your body to change it worked for you? No, and yet it is one of the cruelest strategies that we do without realizing that the body, as a whole of cells, is listening all the time to what we think, what we say and how we relate to our environment. Judgment promotes states of anxiety due to the fantasy of wanting to appear within standards that can rarely be met.
Dr. Bruce H. Lipton, in his book The biology of beliefs, tells us that the body has the ability to take all the information from what we tell it and project it into its organs and systems, creating inflammation or some other symptom that asks us to pay attention. The body shouts what the soul is silent, we usually say in psychotherapy, because the body expresses to us with pain and other symptoms, some aspect that we have not been able to attend to before in another way, it is its way of calling our attention to stop a habit and manage the latent need differently.
When we get sick, we understand this more clearly. But what a need to go to these extremes to be able to stop and create a different relationship with our body, when what creates the most health is when we can have kindness and gentleness with it.
Your body is energy, expressed in each of its cells and it has a lot of important information to share with you that would allow you to enjoy having it and enjoy living through it, all of life’s experiences, but how much do you give yourself the opportunity to hear it? How conscious are you of how you talk to him, of what you say in your conversations, of how you relate to him and to life?
Practical tools to have communion with your body
In the book The joy of your body, Dr. Dain Heer tells us that consciousness includes everything, without judgment; that is to say, the good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly, everything.
In general, we like to look at and include only what we consider good, beautiful, perfect, correct, successful and we exclude or reject the opposite. But our bodies love us unconditionally. Yes, you read that right, they love us unconditionally. They function in spite of us, they breathe, they beat, they manage many functions without you having to perform major actions beyond feeding them, giving them water, allowing them to waste and giving them rest, well, and sex, as one of the sources of pleasure.
Your body, like that of animals, is connected to the nature of the planet, and from its instincts, it survives every day, manages life, releases everything it does not need, takes advantage of everything that arrives and takes what nourishes and beautifies it.
Some tips that Dr. Dain proposes to us have to do with reliving the joy of being in this world with our bodies, enjoying the incarnation. Let’s see what they consist of.
1. Doing what nourishes our bodies through fun, recognition and appreciation for what they are and what they give us.
It is important to be able to enter into this communion with your body, to give yourself time to touch yourself, to recognize yourself, to speak with the body and listen to how he perceives your presence when you look at yourself without judgment when you touch yourself with gratitude and recognition.
2. Stop judging yourself
Judgment has never been able to change anything, instead ask it questions to recognize what information it gives you about how to change anything that happens with your body. A question that is used a lot in Access Consciousness tools is: What is required here for this to change? What is required for it to manifest? What will it take to look this way?
3. You were created to live having pleasure
What if the only purpose of life was to have pleasure? We have been taught exactly the opposite, to have a life full of effort, complication, trauma and drama, but have you asked yourself if the purpose of life were to be happy and live in the joy of being incarnated, how would you live, what would you choose differently. Recognize everything that gives pleasure to your body from each of your senses: food, a sunset, listening to music, petting your pet, walking, the list can be endless.
4. Ask questions
Everything you experience in this life, what you eat, what you wear, what you do has to do with your body, but very few people, or almost no one, take the body into account to know if your body is comfortable with the choices. what they are taking about food, clothing, what you do, exercise, etc. Ask your body how you want to dress, how you want to move, what you want to eat, how much you want to eat, etc. It is a path to create ease and communion with your body.
5. Become aware of who owns that
We are more perceptive than we realize and than we would like to admit; However, we have the ability to perceive the pain, discomfort, feelings, sensations and thoughts of other PEOPLE. HeartMath Institute already tells us that from the sensitive dendrites of the heart, we capture more information from the environment in seconds and we have knowledge, a reaction and we can somehow blend in with our environment, aligning ourselves to emotions such as anger in less than you realize. account.
Asking the question “who owns this?” and becoming aware of whether lightness or heaviness arises will give you awareness of whether it is yours or someone else’s. What is light for you is true, what is heavy is a lie. Ask the question the next time you have pain and perceive without judging the knowledge that your body gives you, then become aware again if the symptom changes.
Our bodies have a lot to say, it is up to us to regain awareness of what they are trying to share with us. Opening ourselves to this other possibility of having a relationship of common union between the body and the being that you are, is a path to recover self-esteem, to value yourself to build inner confidence and to create a much more pleasant life.
I invite you to practice these tools and discover what impact they create in your life, in your relationship with yourself and with others.
