​Being a Mother Means Knowing These 25 Essential Points

Mothers are, along with our fathers, the most important figures in our lives.. They are the people who gave us life and raised us when we couldn’t even feed ourselves.

Thanks to mothers we have grown and developed. That is why this post is dedicated to them.

The mother-son relationship: unconditional love

The task of being a mother can be exhausting It’s a 24-hour job that, especially in the early years, consumes all the time a mother can possess. Mothers spend the first stages of their children’s lives with them, and the attachment that is created at the beginning of this relationship lasts forever.

But what is this attachment? Well, nothing more than the emotional and affective bonds or bonds that are created in interpersonal relationships. And mothers, of course, are the main protagonists of this beautiful relationship.

Attachment theory: What is it?

Attachment theory is a theory made popular by John Bowlby, because he thought that attachment begins in childhood and continues throughout life, and stated that there are behavioral control systems that are innate and that are necessary for the survival and procreation of human beings. Mothers, obviously, are the main protagonists for a child to develop what is considered the healthiest form of attachment: “secure attachment.”

If you have been a mother, you will have already realized that From a very young age, children have an innate behavior that leads them to want to explore new things, they are like mini-explorers. Now, when they think they are in danger, they quickly run into your arms for protection.

Mothers are always there and the little ones know it Just as you have known with yours. As you see, without mothers we would be lost in this world, because it depends on them that we do not develop behaviors that damage our emotional health in the future.

The importance of the maternal function

From birth the mother is there, and Your child becomes familiar with your voice, with your presence The mother becomes responsible for the maternal function in the early stages of life, that is, the desire to provide physical and emotional nourishment to the infants. But at an early age, the mother’s function not only refers to covering physical needs such as food, but is also responsible for providing benign or positive emotional stimuli. Studies show that children who are deprived of these emotional stimuli frequently die from the condition called hospitalism.

Positive affective stimuli are those innate stimuli that are born from the desire to love that new creature, for example, the sweet and soft tone of voice, smiles, caresses and hugs, and gaze.

Mothers are there for good and bad.

Now, the development of a child lasts a lifetime, but until adolescence the maternal figure is of great importance for the descendants. The mother will be in charge of educating a child (along with other educational agents of course), for example, in values. However, You can also be a bad influence on your child if you don’t do things right

Some mothers, voluntarily or involuntarily, engage in different toxic behaviors that, in the long run, can harm the emotional health of their offspring. Toxic mothers can carry out some harmful behaviors, such as those shown below:

You can delve into these negative behaviors of mothers in our post: “Toxic mothers: these 12 characteristics make them unbearable”

What every mother should know

Fortunately, The vast majority of mothers feel that unconditional love towards their children that I had talked about previously

If you are going to be a mother for the first time, you will be interested in knowing the 25 points shown below, because this is a great experience, but sometimes it can be complicated and exhausting:

1. You will develop the super-skill or seventh sense of getting up in the middle of the night.
2. You will become a researcher because you will be interested in knowing everything about your child: what he should eat, what he should do, etc. Surely this is what brought you to this article…
3. You will try to remember what you did when you had free time.
4. You will become a great critic… of yourself.
5. You will worry about what you and your children eat.
6. You will sacrifice yourself for him or her.
7. You will discover a new form of love: maternal love.
8. You will be at the limit of your emotional capacity.
9. You will learn to appreciate what it is to sleep.
10. And you will learn to sleep during the hours your child sleeps.
11. You will develop eyes behind your head.
12. You will realize that you knew nothing about life.
13. When your first child is born… you may suffer from postpartum depression.
14. You will ask your parents (your grandparents) for help.
15. You will think that silence is suspicious.
16. You will learn how to cure pupae with kisses.
17. You will become a diaper expert.
18. You will be an expert in the sport of saving your child from falls.
19. You will realize that each child is different (only when you have your second child).
20. You will learn a new language. For example, “aga”, for water.
21. You will know what stress really is.
22. And, although it will be difficult, you will learn to let his father do things his way because you will stress less.
23. You will enjoy every moment that you can use both hands.
24. You will get used to living with the things that previously made you sick: spit, vomit, excrement…
25. You will become a child again. For example, when you have to play with your child or watch television with him or her.