We have all suffered some moment of disappointment in our lives, a moment in which we felt that something was falling apart inside… But, getting back together is possible!
We have all had moments in our lives when we felt like something was going wrong. crumbled inside moments in which we have felt disappointed in life and in those people to whom we have given ourselves with more will and courage, or in those people from whom we expected more because we have also held them in greater esteem.
When we experience the fruit of a promise that has been broken over the years, of a loyalty torn down, of a disappointment that has been the result of unpious lies,… the pain that we can feel is indescribable, to the point of becoming a harsh trance of mourning.
Hollywood shows us films of disappointment in the family, friendship or relationship; However, a movie does not compare to the experience of living a situation like this firsthand. Feeling like a broken toy, which has been played with, which they have not valued and they have rejected, it is something that can hardly be transferred to the world of words.
What is clear is that we have not come into this world taught and, in the vast majority of cases, we are not prepared to face disappointment. The disappointment It is usually expressed through the union of melancholy and rage, producing disorientation, self-destructive behaviors, fear of vulnerability and hopelessness.
Faced with this emotional conglomerate, at a time like this, it is more important than ever to work on our emotional intelligence. How to work on our emotional intelligence? Here we propose some simple tips :
Express your feelings and arguments to the person who has harmed you. Silence can condemn you to a feeling of helplessness that is not advisable. This is the only way to value your self-esteem.
2. Make a list of at least 10 positive things in your life
In it you can include the names of people in which you trust, which will help you not to generalize the evils you have experienced and to continue maintaining hope in the future.
3. Look for moments in company
He isolation is inadvisable it is necessary that you spend time with quality companies with whom you can open up if you need to do so and who can understand you.
4. Don’t look for escape, look for tranquility
The avoidance and hyperactivity They are not a good remedy to overcome the grief caused by disappointment, since they are behaviors that will cause a rebound effect, emotionally speaking. It is in tranquility that you will be able to take a clear perspective on life.
5. Accept your vulnerability
The world is full of fantastic people and, if you do not accept that to win you have to risk, you will not get to know them. You need to trust people again.
