The concept of infidelity behind this word is a cause for concern and fear for most couples, to the point that it can lead to the appearance of jealousy (justified or not) and even serious couple conflicts. It is an act that, unless it has been agreed upon in advance (for example, having an open relationship), is generally experienced as a betrayal of the relationship, with finding your partner in bed being the nightmare of many.
However, some people may find the fact that their partner has relationships with other people erotic, to the point that a trend has emerged in this regard: the so-called cuckolding or cuckqueaning
The concept of cuckolding, whose approximate translation would be something like “cheating” or “being unfaithful” also currently refers to a sexual tendency or practice based on obtaining sexual gratification through the observation or story of one’s partner having relations with a third person.
Technically, cuckolding would refer to the practice in which a man obtains sexual satisfaction from observing his partner having relations with another man, while cuckqueaning would be the case of those women who become aroused by seeing their partner with another woman. In general, however, cuckolding (that is, the observer is male) is more frequent.
In couples in which this practice is carried out, the party that does not have sexual relations He finds it gratification and exciting the fact that his partner is having it with someone else and he can see it, or have your partner tell you about the encounter. This can later awaken passion between both members and serve as an enhancer for joint sexual life. It is not impossible either for masturbatory behaviors to appear while the observation/story is taking place.
Many couples consider this practice as satisfying, generating emotions and enhancing their joint sexual life. It is, however, necessary that it be something agreed upon and to which both parties freely access, without pressure of any kind and without forcing yourself to do it to please the other party
Although uncommon, cuckolding is a normative sexual activity and can be an experience for those who really want to put it into practice. However, when it is the only or practically the only cause of sexual excitement for the observer and causes discomfort or interference in their normal functioning, it can constitute a paraphilia, called troilism.
Growing practice, previously rejected
In recent times, cuckolding/cuckqueaning has been spreading among the population, becoming a trend and making its way through the usual sexual fantasies
However, it is far from being a majority practice. It is not a practice for everyone: it means that the couple is going to be having sex with another person and this is unpleasant for many people.
In fact, until relatively few years ago it was a practice socially rejected by the majority of society. And cuckolding is a practice that has been poorly considered, like many other sexual tendencies
For example, it has a certain relationship with the idea of swapping partners, being a similar concept. In this case, the couple agrees on the situation beforehand, something that is accepted by both parties. It is also related to voyeurism and exhibitionism, because part of the erotic component is looking at/receiving a description of what happened or being looked at/telling about the relationship.
Possible causes of the appearance of excitement
The fact that seeing another man or woman having sexual relations with one’s own partner is something that is sexually exciting is something that may seem strange to many people, and whose meaning has been attempted to be explained by various authors.
One of the existing theories proposes that part of the arousal may be due to the fact that When the sexual partner has relations with another, they are breaking with the social norm of monogamy. Pleasure would be obtained from defying what is stipulated. Likewise, in the case of couples in which the non-active party is present watching the situation, the subject can visualize the fantasy while having some control of the situation.
Another perspective has a more biological aspect, and excitement may derive from a behavior observed in multiple animal species: when in internally reproducing species a male copulates with a female paired with another male and he observes the interaction, in many cases he himself proceeds to copulate with the female in order to interfere with the semen from the previous copulation. This is what is called sperm competition. Likewise, different research seems to show that human semen is of higher quality and is produced in greater quantity in competitive situations with other competitors. This last theory, although viable, does not explain why cuckqueaning occurs.
