This is how the passage of time appears to us, so fast and with so much to see and experience that we cannot catch it between our two hands.
The cult of not missing anything has become customary God helps those who wake up earlier, says the popular saying. Devoted to speed, we have become a society of the immediate, discarding the value of the process.
Every important thing in our life and in nature has been formed with time, with dedication and with observation; However, millions of years of history have not helped us understand the value of stopping, observing and appreciating the wonder of the passage that time offers.
The passage of time has become a taboo, and our value lies in being able to jump the limits. What is forbidden is no longer sex; The fact of not being an accumulator of serial experiences, or a “worker of love” is not accepted. In return, anyone who enjoys living and cultivating those early times together is seen as old-fashioned.
Success is measured in time It goes from where you are today to how long it takes to reach your limit, death. Limit impossible to know and represent. The further away you are, the better, the younger you will be and the more things you will have to do; Otherwise, times of misery and seclusion will come.
Eternal teenagers without commitment, with a fearful concept of life, anguished by the passage of time and the number that represents their age, experienced as a stigma. Scared of being separated or discriminated against, of not fitting into an ideal built by a suffering society that knows and feels the poor value of the superficial and the exhausting race towards who knows where, but does not know or is afraid to delve deeper and “fast food” thinking is preferred. Quick and simple solutions of little flight, but that leave the illusion of having resolved deep pain that is only processed within a transit that necessarily requires the correct use of time.
Live always accelerating
Today, the disease of living fast is common children have their agendas filled with extracurricular activities, adolescents live at a very young age and with the consent of their parents, experiences to which biologically their brain cannot respond adequately, young adults do not have time for their personal life and They put it off, but they play all the sports, demand private time and complain when their biological clock starts to give signals.
Something similar happens with older people, the pressure to be active is the motivation, just to not look old or out of date. Rejuvenation treatments are applied to all parts of the body. Not accepting our own evolution accelerates us a little more, and in this paradox of not aging we come closer faster to recognizing, from a place almost of horror, the marks of the passage of time.
Along with this, daily processes lose the value experience where the sprouting process makes a difference
At work, quick and brilliant ideas are what are valued. Ideas that actually arise from a thought process and time of internal maturation, but that are sold by the creatives themselves as flashes of ideas that emerged in a moment. The psychic and biological reality tells us the opposite. An idea, an inspiration, a project arises from internal maturation and is not instantaneous. But that part does not come to light, it is not said. If you are slow, according to these parameters you are no longer seen as appreciated or intelligent. Stress illnesses, it goes without saying, continue to increase, and their effects are already beginning to be seen in young children.
Some examples of this are observed in certain communities where entering prestigious universities or simply having a place in an early childhood school is a value and a trophy that is experienced with stress and pressure. Thus, from a very young age we wrongly learn that the value of doing it quickly or sooner will lead us to success.
Reformulating the concept of success is one of the keys to being able to find ourselves in life enjoying each of our times. We forget to value that being alive, in itself, is an achievement. It seems that the pandemic that should have taught us so much did not make enough of a dent in terms of appreciating the value of everyday life.
And it is at this point where the wisdom of age should reinforce this concept, those infected by this fast virus cannot show that courage, since they are busy ensuring that their own age is not evident. Belonging to both society and the time in which we live should reflect that it is not only about adapting to and enriching ourselves with new ideas of how to live or enjoy a more varied, diverse sexuality, with less discrimination and more awareness. Belonging is also for us all to be within the same range beyond our age and to remain active and integrated. Not confusing “active” with “exposed” or unnoticed in the eyes of others or on social networks. Today, activity is measured by the level of spectacle we provide.
In the same way that the muscles of the body need rest to recover damaged fiber and grow, in the same way we need rest so that our brain, our spirit and thus our well-being arises. Seeking balance is not about working too much or saving money or time for the future, it is about a fair, judicious and adult measure of how to live a balanced life.
Aesthetics and its treatments are welcome, but we all see daily the havoc caused by the distortion of the internal image, generating excesses that, rather than beautifying or restoring some changes resulting from the age we experience, produce the opposite effect, leaving precisely what is visible. that aesthetics cannot solve and is a mission for another area of science. The activity, for those who like it, is a pleasure, but It is not necessary nor does it produce a healthy internal compensation when it is done just for show ; The true meaning of sport or competition has been lost. To compete first is to surpass ourselves.
Returning to the value of how productive the passage of time can be would be something interesting to take into account. Both in daily life and in companies, since the recognition of experience could also work as an antidote to the “run fast and you will arrive” of the younger ones to mix with the experience of the older ones. In this way, learning by enjoying the learning process itself in that mix of generations cannot lead to more enrichment.
Beliefs that prevent us from moving forward
There is a lot of talk about limiting beliefs and it is said that they are responsible for how we see and live our reality. The social and personal belief that we have regarding being old, old age, the speed of doing things, or how we live with the idea of death, It is what today generates a taboo A social construction that we prefer not to talk about, but of which we are all complicit in silence.
In this way, it is difficult for those most advanced moments of life to be expected or simply experienced without the ghost of imagining myself abandoned and little or not recognized at all. We are building as a society a distressing present dizzying not to see and a future the same if we do not propose to review how and in what way we want to live.
We forget what we did yesterday, what does not have a place or an alarm on our cell phone, we confuse what is important with what is urgent.
We hear quite frequently “my life doesn’t fulfill me”, “I’m bored”, “what entertained me no longer”, “I can’t find meaning in my work”. Everything seems superficial, but in reality the superficial is what distracts us of the real issue, which is not being able to accept changes, the passage of time, growing, nourishing ourselves with the stages and enjoying them.
Growing up is not the same as growing old, because teaching how to grow and enjoy the process is a task that requires having been able to incorporate the experience in such a way that it becomes an asset. To put it another way, consciously and realistically review our legitimate resources, perfect, if necessary, what remains obscure to us, use formal and emotional intelligence to share with others a world that integrates and improves.
Stop calling “retirement” a moment in life that is far from it. Understand that being young is only a time in the timeline of our lives. Incorporate the idea that it is better to review how and what we enjoy and, above all, add experiences that make life valuable in all its moments. This is more a question of attitude than age. Silvana Weckesser.
