Despite the new couple modalities and the openness that society has shown towards the subject, infidelity continues to cause controversy There are relationships that range from conservative, maintaining a single partner throughout their life, to those who agree to share their partner with more than five people.
Given this, a rejection or acceptance can be seen depending on the culture in which the bond has been formed; However, currently there is a certain curiosity to try a new way of establishing rules within a relationship. Is the concept of loyalty out of fashion?
Monogamy is a term that means “a union.” referring to both sexual and sentimental exclusivity, whether with a person of the same sex or with one of the opposite sex.
Within monogamy too variations arise from one couple to another, even more so with the technological advancement of recent years, where maintaining constant communication with another person through a social network, sending or receiving provocative photos, “matching” with someone within a geosocial application, etc. It can be considered infidelity.
Open relationships and Polyamory
There is a marked difference between open relationships and polyamory. The first concept tells us about a mutual agreement where casual sexual relations with other people are allowed, as long as feelings are not involved, unlike polyamory, in which there is no sexual or sentimental exclusivity, provided that both members of the relationship agree to it. In this way, an individual can maintain a sexual and emotional relationship with more than one person.
Polyamory is common in some Islamic nations, where not only sexual and emotional relationships with other people are allowed, but it is also acceptable for a man to be married to several women simultaneously.
Why was he unfaithful?
As mentioned earlier, When thinking about the concept “infidelity” we find a wide variety of definitions, depending on the beliefs and meaning that each person attributes to the word; Therefore, you cannot generalize by believing that all people are unfaithful for the same reason or that they do it in the same way.
Although certain research shows that the main cause of infidelity is looking for characteristics in another person that the current partner does not satisfy, understanding an act of infidelity, from the causes to knowing whether to forgive it or not, depends on the meaning that was given to it. to that word from the beginning of the relationship.
Putting aside fidelity is not an easy task.
The fact that infidelity causes pain in the deceived person comes from the sense of possession that one has over the other, in which fidelity is synonymous with love and if the couple stops being “the property” of the other by becoming sexually or emotionally involved with someone else, then it breaks with the idea that one has about love; because monogamy is the phenomenon that, mainly in Western cultures, has been transmitted generation after generation as the correct and most socially accepted thing.
On the other hand, having betrayed a mutual agreement between the couple and continually lying to cover up the infidelity can be more painful than accepting a betrayal in time or knowing that either member of the couple you can be attracted to another person at any time
Therefore, it is not a question of assuming that there is no faithful human on earth and considering polygamy as something natural. It is about understanding that infidelity is a possibility and a risk that one runs when being in a relationship However, suffering and misunderstandings can be avoided if assertive communication is maintained from the beginning, where each person expresses the expectations they have of the relationship in question.
