Fortunata Syndrome: in Search of Married Men

Do you know what Fortunata syndrome is? Are there women who are only attracted to married men? Discover all the keys to this syndrome.

Surely you have known (or experienced in your own flesh) someone whose desire is aimed at possessing that which does not belong to him or her at first. presents unattainable Doing a random survey around us, how many times have we not desired the job, a skill, the physique or some other material good of our loved ones?

In street slang it has even been patented with the friendly expression of healthy envy to refer to such dynamics. But what if this phenomenon is inserted into what is prohibited and the search to achieve it begins? And if the desire is directed, specifically and to refine the enigma, towards the delivery of a partner who… Eureka! Surprise! Chance! Do you already have a partner?

What is Fortunata syndrome?

Everything has a psychological explanation and in this case it comes with a name and surname: Fortunata syndrome, women who become emotionally involved with married men, establishing dependency relationships with them. And we say women not because the phenomenon is exclusive to us, but to respect the eloquence of the astute author who coined the term (Barraca Mairal) inspired by the work of Galdós.

However, we do not believe it is fair to reserve such genius for the figure of the female sex and we will try to propose our own personal vision that can be extrapolated to human relationships in general. The first question that arises is why paired couple? Does desire for a man or a woman have any peculiar characteristics in the case of people with a partner?

Why do they focus on married men?

Nothing surprising since the scheme that underlies desire is nourished by what we do not possess, that is not ours, and that is the first of the precepts that are fulfilled in Fortunata syndrome. Starting from this point, we go directly to the next: if on the level of reality it is not mine but someone else’s, any commitment aspiration It has to go through the filter of fantasy.

Imagination functions in this case as an agent in charge of enhancing the senses, sensations and expectations that are most certainly far from everything. objective forecast Pining for a relationship that we long for and cannot have means recreating at our whim the image of an idyll typical of a story with princes, princesses and a castle.

Other most controversial element but not for that reason disposable: what does us good satisfies us equally with respect to what does us harm. Who hasn’t enjoyed moving their tongue around that open wound that appeared in our mouth? It hurts us, yes, but we also find some joy in it. There is something masochistic that moves in impossible relationships, where the intensity of love is measured by the intensity of suffering for the loved one who shares his/her bed with another partner.

And what can we say about the extension of that love over time, how does it last so long despite the inconveniences? Or should we say…incentives? Perhaps precisely the unavailability of the love object that another man/woman possesses is the key to making him “desirable” and the very fact of having it would make him lose part of his attractiveness.

And finally, the monster of rivalry that the wife or husband “of” keeps awake and that culminates the triangulation like the cherries on the cake: first, reinforcing the interest in the loved person because our object of desire is also that of another , and second, fueling the need inherent to every human being to feel like winners, even above the value of the prize to be won: the important thing here: win the game even if we play lemon candies.