Let’s be honest: talking about pornography is not comfortable, it never has been, and probably in a few years it will still be taboo, but it is a topic that cannot be ignored.
Being aware of its effects and possible dangers is of great importance to keep ourselves informed, and, especially, to extend this knowledge to the youth population, who may be more likely to fall into their networks without any type of control.
In such a connected world, the consumption of this type of content is more present than everand we don’t always know how to handle it, for this reason, in the following lines we will tell you how porn addiction has become a problem in the digital age and what you can do about it.
Although diagnostic manuals, such as the DSM-5, do not yet formally recognize pornography addiction, many people experience compulsive consumption that fits patterns of other addictions. This type of behavior affects not only mental health, but also relationships, self-esteem, and other important aspects of life.
Porn is often used as a quick way to feel pleasure, escape stress or evade routine. So, What begins as a sporadic act can transform into a dependency when the brain becomes accustomed to the intense release of dopamine generated by this activity. Over time, tolerance to the content increases, leading to more and more frequent consumption.
The Internet has changed the rules of the game, well, now porn is just a click away, it is free and anonymous. Furthermore, just as it happens in social networks that sometimes are difficult for you to leave, adult content platforms bombard you with options and videos everywhere, to keep you glued to the screen. This creates a more intense and, often, uncontrolled relationship.
A fundamental point why porn has more room in the digital age is that, before, watching pornography required some effort: buying magazines, going to a store or, at least, getting a DVD. Now, it’s as easy as unlocking your phone. This eliminates any barrier and makes consumption normal.
Additionally, another important factor is the type of content. Pornography offers exaggerated versions of sexuality, which can desensitize you to real stimuli. This not only makes it difficult to enjoy sex as a couple, but it can lead those who consume it to search for content in an increasingly extreme way.
And the young people?
The ease with which teenagers access porn is an issue that worries many. At ages where they are learning about sexuality, porn can give a distorted idea of what relationships and sex are like in real life. This affects not only their self-esteem, but also their way of relating to other people.
Furthermore, without good sexual education, many young people do not know how to differentiate between what they see on the screen and what happens in a healthy relationship. This is where campaigns and educational programs come in, which seek to give them tools to better understand the topic.
There are clear signs that porn consumption may be crossing an unhealthy extreme. For example:
What to do if you notice that you have a porn addiction?
If you think that watching porn is starting to complicate your life, it’s time to start acting. First, know that it is possible to regain control over yourself; Second, you don’t have to achieve it completely overnight. Here are some ideas to get you started:
Talk to a professional
Seeking professional help can be a big change in how you handle this problem; that’s why, A psychologist who specializes in addictions or sexual health can help you understand why you compulsively turn to porn and give you tools to better control it.
At this point it is key that you remember that therapy is not only for extreme cases; It also serves to get to know yourself, identify what affects you and work on it. You don’t have to face it alone!
Set technological limits
With how easy it is to access porn, resisting it becomes difficult. A good first step is to set limits on technology: install blockers, set filters, or reduce screen time, especially during those times when you tend to watch it, like at night. It is not the complete solution, it is true, but it helps reduce temptations and take more control over your decisions.
Identify what triggers it
Think about the situations or emotions that lead you to watch porn and you will notice that, many times, it has to do with stress, boredom, loneliness or sadness. Understanding what’s behind that impulse helps you manage it better.
For example, if you’re doing it because of anxiety, try something healthier, like going for a run or listening to some music. Identifying these patterns is key to breaking the habit.
Occupy your mind on other things
When you are bored or have free time, it is easier to fall into the temptation of watching adult content. Therefore, look for activities that you like: pick up a hobby, exercise, learn something new, or spend time with friends.
Staying busy not only improves your mood, but also gives you a sense of accomplishment, which is key to kicking an addiction.
Seek support
Talking about this can be uncomfortable: however, sharing it with a trusted person can help a lot; whether it be a friend, family member or support group.
Expressing what you feel relieves the emotional burden and sometimes you receive advice or support that you were not expecting. And, of course, remember that you don’t need to give many details if you don’t want to; The important thing is not to keep everything in, because having someone to listen to you makes everything easier.
I’m Emily Williams Jones, a psychologist specializing in mental health with a focus on cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness. With a Ph.D. in psychology, my career has spanned research, clinical practice and private counseling. I’m dedicated to helping individuals overcome anxiety, depression and trauma by offering a personalized, evidence-based approach that combines the latest research with compassionate care.
