Every human being is social by nature That is, sharing life with others enriches us. However, it is advisable not to confuse this point with dependency. That is, with the idea of ​​believing that you are constantly conditioned by another person because your life without that someone would not have the same meaning. You are an autonomous person. You are born and die alone. During the rest of your life you find traveling companions, however, only you will always be by your side.
You share your entire life with yourself, in the privacy of your own soul. For this reason, becoming aware of this individuality should help you think about how any dependent relationship produces anguish because it fails to cover emotional deficiencies. The dependence It leads you to suffer from the anxiety of fear of abandonment. How to end dependency?
You only manage to break with the boundaries of a dependent bond through living new experiences that lead you to expand your comfort zone with sensations unknown until now. A dependent person thinks that a trip is more fun when enjoyed with company, however, in reality, this belief can be easily broken if you test your own prejudices.
Organize a solo trip. Choose a destination and take all the decisions of organization without delegating to anyone else. A trip is one of the most important experiences of independence. You don’t need to go to a destination far from home to experience this autonomy, you can choose a nearby horizon.
Other individual leisure plans
Likewise, you can apply the same criteria to any plan that you link in your mind with the need to enjoy it with someone. For example, going to the cinema, the theater or a music concert. Dare to break up with the margins limitations of your own beliefs and begin to experience this type of leisure in an individual way.
You will be surprised by everything you can discover about yourself and the satisfaction of having surpassed your own limits. This type of exercise practical It is simple but important because dependency is focused precisely on this point, that is, on how many people are left without doing many things because they have not found someone to share it with.
The false illusion of dependency
Behind the dependence There is a deeper pain that is the search for stability and permanence in a changing environment. However, dependency does not kill loneliness but rather increases it. Therefore, identify what is the cause of the dependency at this specific moment. If you observe a situation of repeated bonds in which you have repeated the same dependency pattern, then it is best to ask for psychological help for therapy.
How many times do you delegate responsibilities that are your own to others? So, break this attitude to start putting more weight on yourself and your ability of live life in your pleasant company. Because living is learning.
This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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