Communication is key to trust in a relationship. A trust that is strengthened through respect and that, on the contrary, can sometimes be broken by the effects of a significant lie. That is to say, a gesture of this type can sometimes break the trust consolidated until now, for example, infidelity. However, there are lies of different characteristics and revealing the deception is not always easy. How to know if your partner is lying to you? At PsychologyFor, we give you all the keys and signs that will help you know if your partner is cheating on you.
How to know if your partner is lying to you? – 4 sign
Below, we show you a series of signs that can help you know if your partner is lying to you:
Discomfort in a prolonged conversation about the topic When you try to have a long conversation about this topic, the other person seems uncomfortable and reduces the conversation to the expression of repeated phrases that leave no room for argument.
You have discovered previous lies: When you have already discovered several lies and despite the fact that he has promised you that he will not lie to you again, you observe behavior of this type again, you can come to the conclusion that this expected change in his behavior has not occurred.
It tells you one thing and does the opposite: Lies can have very different nuances. Sometimes, they are presented in the format of broken expectations. This occurs when you experience the pain of a promise that did not materialize in practice. Does your partner say something that he or she does not follow through with in practice and makes this mistake on a regular basis?
Lack of clarity: When you ask him questions, he does not answer your question clearly. He goes around the edges, tells unbelievable stories, and gives excessive weight to external factors instead of his own decision-making capacity.
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What to do when they lie to you
This is a personal decision, since it depends on the interpretation you give to that lie. Some people may consider that hiding certain information is a pious deception or that it is unimportant.
A lie is a circumstance that conditions the relationship that the other person has with you, however, an effect derived from this fact can occur: that the lie also conditions the relationship you have with you when you deceive yourself. What can you do when they lie to you?:
1. Face that conversation
If it is an important event for you, do not act as if nothing had happened. Face that conversation and do it as soon as possible so that there is a temporal relationship between the moment of the talk and the moment in which that event occurred. Otherwise, if you let time pass, it is possible to lose perspective of what really happened.
2. Listen carefully
When you know that your partner is lying to you, you feel that this experience is really uncomfortable. However, it is recommended that you maintain a dialogue in which the active listening It allows you to pay attention to what the other person has to tell you because their argument may offer you a different point of view.
Just because a person lies to you doesn’t mean you should respond in the same way. You can show him the mirror of truth, sincerity and honesty in the face of his behavior through your words.
4. Describe the consequences
Lies have consequences, however, your partner will know them better if you describe them clearly, that is, if you make him or her aware of what can happen if he continues lying to you for longer.
You can see more tips like these in the article How to act when a person lies to you.
How to act when your partner lies to you
Below, we give you five tips to deal with lies in your relationship:
1. Couple code
It is recommended that this be one of the possible topics of conversation to share values and points of view on this topic. That is to say, it is advisable to raise this conversation even before a significant lie occurs.
2. Open questions
Ask open-ended rather than closed-ended questions during the conversation, since it is easier to reinforce a lie through answers that are narrowed down to the limits of “yes” or “no.”
3. Forgiveness
People make mistakes and lying is a clear manifestation of this fact. Therefore, a lie can also be accompanied by the repentance of the liar and the apology of the person who has felt hurt.
4. What was the intention of a lie
The lie can not only be observed through the fact itself, but also in its initial intention. By discovering why your partner acted in a certain way, you can also realize that he or she had no bad intentions.
5. Contextualize the situation
The value of a lie is also closely linked to the context of the type of deception and the situation that the couple’s relationship is going through. Therefore, limit what happened to the concreteness of the here and now but, also, put it in relation to the recent history between the two. Is this something that happens frequently or has it been an isolated event?
This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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