How To Know When Someone Doesn’t Love You, In 30 Items
Hard, yes. But necessary.
The sooner we realize which people around us do not love us, the sooner we can take action on the matter and decide what course of action we are going to take. It is difficult to love someone who does not love us, and on many occasions continuing with this type of relationship leads to a loss of self-esteem that makes us begin to love ourselves less and less. It is good to have the right tools to know how to identify these people.
Here I leave you some key points to be able to realize this. Obviously they are at an indicative level, given that Not all people act the same and sometimes some of these behaviors may be due to other factors
But if reading these items we feel identified with the majority, what is real is that we are not in an equal or healthy relationship, and knowing this is the first step.
30 things you can notice when that person doesn’t love you
1. You feel bad for asking him to spend some time with you You feel like you’re begging him.
2. Does not support you in your decisions Rather, they don’t even seem to care: his attitude is one of indifference.
3. Does not value your opinion You feel as if his opinion is the only valid one. He never asks you for your opinion.
4. He’s not usually there when you need him There is only room for you in his or her agenda when he or she wants it, without taking into account your needs.
5. Doesn’t usually have details with you A “I saw this and I remembered you”, a good night message, something.
6. Doesn’t pay attention to what you say You feel that he is not listening to you or that he is not interested in what you are telling him even though it is important to you.
7. You feel like he’s above you You have given him so much power that you don’t feel like you live up to it.
8. He doesn’t want the best for you if he loses something by doing so He puts his needs before yours on most occasions.
9. He doesn’t make you feel good with his comments He does not usually have positive and pleasant messages towards you.
10. You feel like you are not yourself when you are with that person You try to please him as much as you can, even if you do things you don’t agree with.
eleven. You feel that he does not enjoy when he is by your side These types of things are noticeable, even if we want to close our eyes.
12. It’s not usually up to that person to contact you When he does it you are happy and you hold on to it. Stop and think. How many times have you done it? Those who truly love you will do everything possible to find out about you. If it is almost always you who takes that step, your interest is not at the same point.
13. His words do not match his actions He may promise you the stars, but then acts the opposite. Important: a person speaks through his actions.
14. He doesn’t count on you in important decisions It gives the feeling that “he is going on his own”.
fifteen. When you disagree about something or there is an argument shows no interest in solving it and it is always you who ends up giving in even if you think you are right for fear of losing him.
16. It seems like he never has time for you and everything else is more urgent
17. It doesn’t make you feel special You doubt everything, you feel small and insecure.
18. He is not interested in how your day went These types of details are important when assessing the other person’s concern for our life.
19. Doesn’t remember important things you’ve told him about yourself Maybe he didn’t care at the time you told him, which shows a lack of interest.
twenty. He doesn’t care if you feel comfortable or not around him
twenty-one. You feel less affection from him than you think he could give you Shows of affection are important and we must pay attention to how we feel in this regard.
22. When you are with him or her, it doesn’t make you love yourself more , but rather the opposite. This is very dangerous. When we decide to share our lives with someone, the healthy thing is to feel stronger. And on many occasions, even if we don’t want to see it, if the person next to us doesn’t love us, we begin to value ourselves less.
23. It doesn’t tell you anything too personal Your conversations become banal and when you want to go deeper, you divert the topic.
24. You are more bad than good most of the time If we decide to have a relationship it is to enrich our existence. When it impoverishes you, you have to stop and think about what is happening.
25. Doesn’t respect when you need your space If he wants something, he doesn’t care if you’re busy or it’s not a good time.
26. When you ask him he is not clear Either they love you or they don’t love you. There are no middle ground here.
27. You live in the hope that things will change No matter how much it hurts, enough is enough. We cannot be with someone expecting that in the future it will be different. Because it probably isn’t, and we’re wasting our time in the present.
28. Much of your environment tells you Sometimes we can’t see things objectively. If the people who really love us warn us that the person next to us does not love us or at least not in the way we need, perhaps they have a point.
29. One day yes, one day no. He makes plans that he cannot fulfill He calls you when he is interested but then if something comes up he sells you at the first opportunity. We all have priorities, make sure you don’t have the person who has you in the last positions at the top of yours.
30. You feel like he doesn’t love you This is where we invent a thousand arguments to justify their behavior. If you don’t feel loved in a relationship, maybe it’s because they don’t love you. And if they love you, it may not be the way you need it.
