How to Overcome Difficulties and Rebuild Your Future?

On many occasions we have heard that for the individual the search for success is vital, understanding success beyond a high social or economic status. Considering it rather as plenitude, true inner greatness. This contains a set of elements that can range from having positive relationships to experiencing well-being, both at work and in the different areas in which you work, whether you are a father, mother, son, friend, brother, colleague, employee.. Other elements should be added such as the presence of optimism, the sense of belonging to groups, your levels of satisfaction and general personal well-being. Synonymous with triumph, improvement, victory, progress.

The power of resilience

Faced with the various situations that each one experiences, you have surely come across devastating circumstances, but also, faced with realities in which you feel satisfied with yourself, where you have been able to experience security and inner strength. The latter in particular, complement you with conditions, attitudes and virtues to face the demands and unforeseen events that may arise.

What am I talking about, to overcome difficulties and rebuild your future. Of that ability to rise from adversity; Call it crises, difficult environments, dangerous realities, traumas. Seeking to adapt, recover and enable you to achieve a meaningful and productive life. It is a healthy adjustment to the adverse reality that generates negative emotions, which allows you to resist, restore yourself and forge yourself towards the future to create positive emotions. This is Resilience, a hopeful and optimistic way of projecting and remaking yourself.

Any circumstance that breaks the harmony in your environment becomes an unfavorable situation. Therefore, adversity is considered subjective. It is worth noting that the most primary need is that of emotional security, that experience of being accepted unconditionally, being cared for, loved and valued. The dissatisfaction of this need will be perceived as abandonment, loneliness, helplessness, rejection, insecurity or fear.

Attachment is essential to satisfy that need to be loved and protected, since it entails the unconditional nature of acceptance. Furthermore, as we grow and develop, we need to expand our social relationships. These satisfy the need to feel like you belong to a group, giving you the opportunity to share and enjoy relationships with peers, friendship and camaraderie. Requiring you to get out of yourself, and consider the other, within a voluntary relationship, which demands reciprocity.

How does this personality develop?

The saying that “adversity strengthens us” shows that you can generate experiences, new resources and evolve on your path despite difficulties. Thus, being resilient develops. However, there are some people who possess certain traits or characteristics that protect them from typical stressful events. It is generally associated with a tendency to perceive potential traumatic events in a less threatening way.

These are the ones recognized as having a resistant personality, who manage both environmental evaluation mechanisms and more convenient coping skills. At the same time that they actually see the events as less threatening, they themselves remain more optimistic about their ability to cope. But be careful not to think that by avoiding the problem you think you have resolved the situation, because it will continue to be there. An interesting question would be: How to develop a resistant personality?

I mention these skills to emerge from adversity and adapt or recover, but also, promote a meaningful and beneficial life. A skill that allows you to remake yourself.

How could you practically face these types of difficulties to project yourself into a better future?

Look for as many alternatives as possible that will allow you to solve the difficulty. Even think of at least ten alternatives, that will force you to change your usual point of view. Once your perspective has expanded, it will be time to evaluate the possible solutions and decide which one(s) to choose.

Other actions that you could put into practice would be to identify What do you think in those contexts? What emotions or sensations do they produce in you? What can you do to redirect them favorably? The idea is that you can detail what the real event was and identify the thoughts and sensations conceived from the event, to generate thoughts that are positive opposites and manage the emotions and sensations experienced.

Also keep in mind that human connection is essential for our emotional and cognitive health. We need human contact, closeness with significant people; The reality of life is leading us to be increasingly alone and this does not help you either. Pay attention to how you lead your life, if your family is getting smaller, if your friends are no longer there, if the workday demands long hours.

Or incongruously, you rely on technology to get closer, but you end up disconnected from those closest to you, or you simply cannot always replace the warmth of a personal encounter. What if we began to reconnect and find ways out of individualism and isolation? You would surely feel closer to a meaningful and productive life. Some ideas to transform your reality on a daily basis:

That for you, a quality life also means living accompanied. So, in this way, you will take small steps towards a full, more connected and strengthened life. Cheer up from today, a walk, a shared moment, a message or a call. Make it a priority to connect and don’t let loneliness shelter you after adversity. That in the face of any circumstance that breaks the harmony in your environment, you can experience the certainty that not everything is negative, that you can get everything you need, that life offers opportunities, you just need to allow yourself to see them, your attitude is essential to feel fulfilled and flow naturally.