What is typical of a couple? What attitudes should we tolerate and which should we not? We confuse the duties of a couple with our feelings, discover why.
Many times I have asked myself what what is it to live as a couple Not the physical fact, but the genuine thing, what concerns the feeling of living with someone and feeling them emotionally. I know that many people say that they live as a couple, I hear them say yes, and they attest to it when they say that they have gone to church or the court to tell God or others that they want to live as a couple and, who knows if eventually have a family. Others do not take that step because they think it is pure formalism.
What does it mean to live as a couple?
Surely, the reality is that, in one way or another, for many of them, living as a couple, except in the first moments of the relationship becomes pure formalism.
That’s why, when you cross a road and see two people walking, step by step, one next to the other, without anyone else, just moving forward; and when you also notice that they both carry the same backpack, the same canes, the same path, and that they both smile and when, also, share the same conversation; then you realize that perhaps that is the most important and beautiful thing.
When there is a conversation between two people, and also looks and caresses, when there is desire, when they share belongings and the same path, we see how unimportant it is whether one cleans up the bathroom, or whether or not they throw out the trash, etc.
If sharing household chores becomes the most important of a couple, you already know which couple we are talking about: the formal, habitual couple, one of many couples. I’m not saying it’s bad, I’m saying it’s normal.
And yet, when sharing tasks there is no discussion, because there is hardly any discussion, because above all one talks, listens, shares, smiles, wanting the other person to do well and be happy; perhaps then the word is not “couple”, but “unity” or “union”, since everything merges: one is the other, and the other is one.
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PsychologyFor. (2024). Living Together. https://psychologyfor.com/living-together/