A relationship goes through different stages. A courtship stage has the purpose of mutual knowledge. For this reason, when a relationship produces chronic dissatisfaction, it is advisable to evaluate the decision to break up. There is a question that causes special distress to those who suffer from it: indifference on the part of the loved one. At PsychologyFor we answer this question: “My boyfriend doesn’t listen to me, what do I do?” We help you solve this situation!
You are not responsible for your boyfriend not paying attention to you.
The very formulation of the question shows the psychological trap of which people who suffer from this situation are victims. They take responsibility for what happened, they believe that they can influence to produce some positive change in their partner. The truth is if your partner doesn’t pay attention to you this is an aspect that It does not depend on your will , but rather it shows an action on the part of the other towards you. You cannot command the will or heart of others, however, you can make decisions regarding how you position yourself in this situation.
When your partner doesn’t pay attention to you, you feel as if you were not a participant in his or her life and as if he or she were light years away from yours. What sense does it make then to prolong a situation of this type, acting as if nothing happened? In the following article we show some tips to stop loving a partner who does not value you.
How to know if your partner doesn’t love you
Something has changed between you Partner indifference can be a symptom of cooling feelings and loss of love on the part of the boyfriend. Sometimes, it’s not easy to know what’s going on in another person’s heart. However, actions are an external reflection of a person’s feelings, and when indifference is a constant in the relationship, this indifference is showing a deeper disinterest.
Avoid your responsibility When your partner cannot dedicate the time to you that he would like, temporarily for a certain reason, he lets you know the reason, that is, he gives you an objective and real explanation. Simply because you are important to him. However, when your partner is indifferent to you and prolongs this situation over time, he only gives you evasion and justifications when you try to talk about it and clarify the situation.
He is absent Your partner truly loves you when he or she has a real presence in your life because only through the experience of living the present of this love, can you collaboratively build a solid future for this story. On the contrary, when your partner ignores you, it shows that he is evading his responsibility in taking care of this relationship. Delegate all the weight of it to you.
You feel loneliness Your partner loves you if he is the protagonist, along with you, of this love story. In this context, you experience the discomfort of accompanied loneliness, since you can feel light years away from your partner, even if you are physically in the same room.
Ask your boyfriend why he doesn’t listen to you like before
It is very possible that if you are experiencing a situation of this type, you are suffering from that internal dialogue that leads you to circle around this relationship of disappointment. However, it is better that you address this issue as soon as possible. It is positive that talk to your partner to find out what’s wrong, but instead of starting the conversation with possible reproaches, express how you feel.
Explain How does this indifference make you feel? The determining factor in this conversation is not only what he can tell you but also whether this conversation produces a real change in the relationship or, on the contrary, everything continues as before.
The human being is complex For example, when a person has an important problem or a worry that distresses them, they may tend to focus on themselves, distancing themselves from their relationship. However, beyond the cause, when a person is with another person who does not pay attention to them and does nothing to correct this situation of disinterest, then the person affected by this issue must remember that they deserve to be happy with a love in which There is balance between giving and receiving.
When your partner ignores you and you have an attitude of infinite patience towards this situation, you suffer even more because you are turning your back on yourself by not defending your rights in this relationship. For example, if your partner is behaving this way towards you, you deserve an explanation It is one thing to have empathy with your partner and quite another to sacrifice your own self-esteem by constantly trying to justify other people’s behavior.
This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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