“My Ex Blocked Me Everywhere”: Possible Causes And Advice
Breakups are never easy. Many times an attempt is made to end the relationship in an adult and rational way, trying to close the end of an entire era of affection in the least hurtful way. Others, however, the breakup is aggressive, leaving much to talk about and fix.
The normal thing is that, when breaking up, you wait for the tension to pass, for the breakup to be overcome. It is possible that it was not by mutual agreement and that there is always someone of the two who is waiting to return, something that may not happen.
The other party, who may feel watched or simply wants to cut things off, decides to cut off all communication, blocking their ex’s profile on all social accounts. Many men and women see this the day or days after breaking up, and think: “My ex blocked me everywhere, why?” Here we are going to explore this topic.
“My ex blocked me from everywhere”: social networks and couples
Social media has occupied every aspect of our lives and, unsurprisingly, have acquired great importance in couple relationships : the photos of the two of them together on Instagram and Facebook, the comments on both Twitter profiles and, of course, the long WhatsApp conversations are samples, empirical facts, that there was once an intimate relationship of love between two people.
But in the same way that these social networks have facilitated interpersonal communication, serving as a way of letting the world know that you are dating a boy or girl, they also have encouraged surveillance and control behaviors These behaviors can sometimes reach such toxic levels that they are harmful to both the mental health of those who are watching and those who are being watched, especially because they feel that they are not safe. It is very difficult to avoid the temptation of monitoring the Facebook status or Instagram photos where the ex-partner is tagged, but everything has a limit.
It should be said that these behaviors vary depending on who has broken up and who has been left, in addition to the type of attachment they may have. A person with avoidant tendencies may, after the breakup, minimize contact with the ex-partner. Others, with an ambivalent or anxious attachment, may present great concern for the other, which translates into higher levels of stress and behaviors more aimed at trying to get them back, sometimes bordering on persecution and obsession with trying to establish contact, be it one way or the other.
My ex has completely eliminated me
It is normal that, after breaking up, we cannot resist the temptation to find out what the other person is doing. If we still have some avenue open, be it a social network, a common contact or whatever, it is normal to try to obtain information, no matter how little. Almost everyone, after breaking up, tries to find out how their ex is, what they do and who they do it with This is because you cannot so easily forget someone with whom you have shared so much.
Even if both people have agreed not to speak to each other, or one of them has decided to withdraw the word from the other, the fact of continuing to have the ex on the contact list or as a friend on a social network serves as a bridge to maintain communication, even if it is not have the intention. This is a problem, especially if, without meaning to, we are seeing what our ex is hanging in the home window. Although we have promised not to gossip about his profile, the fact that he posts things makes us see them passively.
Getting over a breakup is not about completely forgetting our ex , as long as the relationship was healthy and without abuse. After all, the person we just broke up with has been part of our life, we have shared many pleasant experiences with him or her and we have invited him or her into our most intimate world. However, if we want to leave behind the tension of the breakup, the sadness and anger that it has caused us, and try to rebuild our love life, both by moving towards a new partner or becoming single, it is best to avoid our partner’s photos and comments. ex.
Although curiosity, that is, gossiping about our ex’s photos, is an impediment to overcoming the breakup period, it is important to highlight a feeling that is a direct symptom of not having overcome this process: uncertainty. Breaking up with a partner, whether dating or marriage, implies doubts about the future. Psychologists know very well that a breakup involves a period of mourning, in which sadness is combined with uncertainty, manifested in the form of questions such as: Will I love again? Will they love me again? What I did wrong will I do it again?…
Also It is a real suffering not knowing if the person we have broken up with is really going to leave us permanently , she will come back but as a friend or if she will want to come back after regretting the breakup. Whatever has to happen, the fact that she blocks us completely is a sign that she really wants to cut things off, it is a way of telling us that she is no longer interested in us and, although it may seem counterintuitive, it is a good sign. It is something positive because, to the extent that it prevents us from gossiping about him or her again, we will be freer, spending less time thinking about him or her.
Breaking up is a very emotionally painful time for both parties. Both feel stress, tension from not knowing what the other will do or not do. The best way to shorten the life of these emotions is to stop being exposed to the stimulus that causes them, which is any photograph, audio or comment that comes from the ex-partner.
Possible reasons why your ex blocked you
The reasons why our ex-partner has blocked us from everywhere can be basically summarized in the following points although they can also be interpreted as advice applicable to ourselves that will motivate us to block our partner and speed up the breakup process.
It is quite likely, especially if he or she was the one who broke up, that the other party continues to see images of us even though they are not looking for them.
That is, let’s imagine the situation in which you still have us added to Instagram. Every time we post a photo, he or she will see it, and we will remind him or her of our existence, with all that that implies.
To avoid having to be exposed to us, the best thing she could do was block us on social networks, not with an evil intention, but rather with the intention of dealing with the pain better
2. To not torture yourself
Related to what we have talked about about human curiosity, it is possible that our ex has blocked us because I was constantly looking at our social networks, watching what we were doing and what we weren’t doing
This is what we call “stalking,” which is basically the Anglo-Saxon term for “harassing or prowling,” although not in the sinister sense of the word.
Paying attention to how a person who has just left us is doing is something that does not leave a good feeling , because you will still feel something. That is why, in a rational act, he has blocked us to stop torturing himself by looking at our profile.
3. You feel watched
As we have already seen It is common that, after a breakup, you pay a little attention to what the other person is doing As long as that is not used to commit crimes or convince herself that there will be a reconquest (let her be happy and free!), it is normal to look a little at what she is doing.
The problem is that the other party may be aware that you are watching them and they don’t like that. As a free person, he has decided to block you to prevent you from continuing to look at what he is posting.
This is not an immature act. You have every right to select who sees and who does not see what you post. The fact that you have gossiped a little about his profile is not immature either, as long as you haven’t made unpleasant comments or opened their chat over and over again
4. To move forward
It is possible that it is a mixture of the three previous causes, combined with the idea that if he cuts off all relations with you, he will not be able to move forward.
And Whatsapp?
Although they are all social networks, Twitter, Instagram and Facebook are not the same as Whatsapp and Telegram. The first three are networks that we could consider biographical, that is, in them we publish our status, our photos, share content and posts. On the other hand, WhatsApp and similar networks are more used as instant messaging networks. Yes, we can share photos and content, but the main use is to maintain conversations.
It is relatively easy to block a person on biographical networks , especially to prevent you from accessing more revealing content, such as photos with your new partner. It does this, as we have said before, either to prevent us from seeing it or because it does not want to fall into the temptation of seeing our photos.
However, things are different with instant messaging applications, given that they are more personal services and the place where practically the entire history of our relationship is found: messages of good morning love, good night baby, photos of all kinds (erotic included) and, especially in the most recent messages, the chronicle of a not very pleasant outcome.
Deciding whether to delete our ex from WhatsApp or not is a very complicated decision , and it depends on the use that is given to this network along with how the breakup is being handled. It is said that maintaining contact with the ex-partner, even in the form of preserving contact just in case, is something that can inhibit the process of overcoming the breakup. That is why, generally, it is recommended to break contact even in this way.
It is especially advisable to do this if we are one of those who do not stop reviewing over and over again the very long conversation we have had with him or her. This can bring to mind pleasant memories, but also tense situations, especially the most recent messages. This can cause us a lot of emotional pain, being unable to get out of the past and behaving, also in a very pathological way, like supposed detectives trying to figure out when the relationship went wrong, and if we can do something to get back.
As a final point, deleting the phone number, whether he or she has blocked us or not, is highly recommended. This is because it will prevent us from calling him, telling him that we regret everything, half crying, asking in a thousand and one ways, all of them humiliating, to come back when we feel a little down or our emotions are not on the surface. . The best thing is to put distance and time, and the best way to achieve this is to break communication, especially if there was too much tension
If that person has to return, or wants to solve things when things are calm, everything will come in due time. What we cannot do is be blinded by whether he has blocked us or stopped blocking us, nor should we trust that miraculously everything will be resolved. Life is a river whose waters know that they are going to end up in the sea, but they do not know what the path will be like. Love is like the sea, it will come, whether it is returning to our ex or dating a new person.
