There is a false belief that taking a long time to ejaculate improves sexual relations and increases pleasure, but the truth is that when the orgasm lasts too long it can become very frustrating, both for the man and his partner.
Delayed ejaculation usually causes conflicts in the relationship, generating great dissatisfaction in sexual life. If you suffer from this problem, you may feel alone and misunderstood or even ashamed to seek help. Let’s see what they are The characteristics and treatment of delayed ejaculation
Delayed ejaculation is a male orgasmic disorder that is characterized by the disappearance or delay of orgasm, after the normal arousal stage in the sexual act has occurred.
It is estimated that between 2 and 6% of men suffer from delayed ejaculation
Guys
Depending on the degree, you may find yourself in one of the following cases:
Delayed ejaculation is also classified according to the time of its appearance:
Symptoms: how to know if you suffer from it
Some men with delayed ejaculation need 30 minutes or more of sexual stimulation to reach orgasm and ejaculate.
However, the key to diagnosing delayed ejaculation does not lie in the time but in the level of anguish, frustration or sexual fatigue that this lack of control over ejaculation causes you. Therefore, it is not simply that it takes you longer than usual to ejaculate but that this delay causes your sexual life and that of your partner to be unsatisfactory
The main causes of delayed ejaculation are as follows.
Psychological
Delayed ejaculation usually has a large psychological component. Perhaps you have received an excessively puritanical, restrictive and/or sanctioning education regarding sexuality based on the belief that the sexual act is “bad.” It could also be because you demand too much of yourself in the relationship so that it is difficult for you to relax and enjoy since you are very aware of your performance or you are so worried about satisfying your partner that you forget about your own pleasure.
In other cases, the problem may come from fear of intimacy, fear of an unwanted pregnancy, relationship difficulties, or an unresolved sexual identity conflict. However, many times delayed ejaculation is based on inappropriate masturbatory habits, especially if you apply a lot of pressure with very fast movements, so that it will later be difficult, if not impossible, to obtain sufficient stimulation through penetration alone.
Organic and/or psychological diseases
Some neurological problems, such as those caused by strokes, spinal cord injuries or neuropathies ; Diseases such as diabetes, urinary tract problems and disorders such as depression can cause delayed ejaculation. Alcohol and/or drug consumption can also cause this problem.
Medicines
The consumption of some medications, including antidepressants, anxiolytics and antihypertensives, can delay the ejaculatory response. Some drugs for erectile dysfunction They can also cause delayed ejaculation.
Consequences
When sexual intercourse lasts too long, it can become uncomfortable. Both you and your partner are likely to suffer pain and irritation in the genital area due to excessive stimulation. These problems can cause you to end up losing interest in sexual activity since, instead of pleasure, you causes frustration, anxiety and fatigue
If the problem continues over time and you do not talk about it, your partner may harbor deep insecurity because he will think that he is not attractive enough or that he is not capable of stimulating you correctly to satisfy your sexual needs, which will generate self-esteem and self-confidence problems.
In cases, if you have difficulty ejaculating during sexual intercourse, it is also likely that you will have difficulty conceiving, which It becomes a major source of tension when you both want to have a child
In the long run, if delayed ejaculation is not treated, it usually generates conflicts that end up breaking up the relationship. In fact, this type of problem usually causes emotional flattening in both members of the couple, so that they end up distancing themselves emotionally.
Treatment
Through techniques such as clinical hypnosis we can access the patient’s unconscious to discover the negative beliefs and attitudes about sexuality that you have probably carried since adolescence or even before and that are fueling this problem.
With techniques like EMDR and EFT we can release the emotional information recorded in your brain linked to negative past experiences that currently continue to feed that vicious cycle of anxiety, tension and insecurity that prevents you from fully enjoying your sexuality.
We also use behavioral techniques and sex therapy exercises to help you rediscover intimacy. The objective of some of these exercises is to match thoughts with sensations, since one of the main problems in delayed ejaculation is that the frequency of negative thoughts about the need to ejaculate ends up neutralizing your erotic fantasies and stimulation.
That cycle is broken when you learn to be fully present and let go of worry and performance anxiety. For that also We will work with relaxation and mindfulness techniques
If delayed ejaculation has its origin in a relationship problem, we will work with both of you to strengthen your relationship, resolve latent conflicts and ensure that you enjoy a more satisfactory sexual life for both of you.
Since the approach to psychological intervention must occur through different facets of the problem, in our center we have an area specialized in sexology and couples therapy with expert sexologists and couples therapists who help patients improve their sexual lives.
